Hi everyone,
I am 32 and am HER2+ & ER+, had 12mm IDC, I had a lumpectomy in July and had no nodes involved. Chemo has always been a maybe from the start so I met with my oncologist who specialises in radiotherapy, he suggested I didn’t need chemo as everything looked good and it would be of very little benefit - 4% if I had chemo and heceptin. It was left I would have radiotherapy and tamoxifen.
However this has left me confused as everything I had read about HER2+ implies you need chemo. I want to be sure I am doing the right thing by not having it.
I spoke with the breast care nurse and she also seemed puzzled that I was told I don’t really need chemo and felt for my situation so she suggested I met with a medical oncologist to have another chat. To my surprise she managed to arrange it for later that day. I met with a Registra and a Doctor in the oncology department, this meeting was quite different to my first one and they seemed to be more concerned by my HER2 status and also mentioned my age, saying I have a longer period of a chance for it to return. They also said they had a chat before seeing me as I am borderline so I it was hard to know what to suggest but I came away thinking I now should have chemo but I can’t get out of my head why the doctors didn’t feel I would benefit from it in the first place. Right from the start Chemotherapy has always been a maybe, despite my HER2+. Surely if being HER2+ is that bad then I should have it no matter what (which is pretty much the impression I have seen) but why has it always been a maybe?
I hate the thought of having chemo especially when I feel fine, and as the doctor said they could be treating me when I have no cancer cells in left. I could have the chemo and still get cancer or I could not have chemo and still get it.
I feel like breast cancer is more risky than other cancers, HER2 is also higher risk so I should have chemo but then I think that the first doctor didn’t think there was much benefit to me having it. Having read all the side effects of chemo and herceptin I feel like I would be doing more harm. But then there is the what it’s. I just feel like it is a risk either way and I feel alone with knowing what to do. I don’t want to have to make such a big choice, I am.not a doctor, I want to be told. I just want to speak to people in my situation and to have as many facts as possible. Any advice would be greatly received!