Just recently been dx with bc invasive ductual carcinoma grade 2 had wle and sentinel node , no spread there. Have been on this site and reading but not had the courage to join until now, early days for me still trying to get my head round it all, but feeling extra low today (probably due to the fact that I lost my Dad at the weekend) anyway Im hoping speaking to you will help me get through this bad day!
Am 41 with two teenage children and a wonderful husband and really really scared.
Thank you for your time
Tracy
Hi Tracy
I am sorry to hear you are in the BC club, I just joined today as in just diagnosed today. So sorry to hear of you losing your Dad. I nearly lost my Dad almost 2 years ago, heart, he is ok now mainly but they think he has more narrowing of the arteries, just have to be assured that they are keeping an eye on him.
I am 47 with one adult son and 2 teenage daughters. My bloke is fantastic and so loving but I am scared how he will cope when I tell him and I can’t tell him till next week as he is away on business till early next week.
They tell me today that I have to have a masectomy, went on my own just thinking it was maybe a cyst but they have done the needle thing and then told me I have C and then I think it was biopsy, got local anaesthetic and he used a noisy thing to take samples and put them in a jar. Bonfire Day I go back and he already says I need to have the full masectomy as the C is deep . Not really sure how I am feeling about it all, don’t feel scared strangely, and then the next minute I do but not for me I am scared for my kids and my bloke and my parents and sisters and pals. It kinda feels like I will wake tomorrow and it has been just a bad bad dream. Crying one minute and feel a bit light headed. Went to see my sis today and told her but now feel guilty for telling her.
Tracy
Keep your chin up darlin, best to you from Carole xxx
Tracy
I’m really sorry you’re in a position to join this site but welcome even so.
I’m also very sorry to hear that you lost your Dad at the weekend. It sounds like you’re having a horrible time and have every right to feel low.
I’m 30 and was diagnosed in June. I’m currently half way through chemo. I can’t say it’s been any fun at all but I am starting to feel that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and I do have far more good days than bad ones.
Don’t know if that helps at all but try to keep positive - you will get through this.
Lots of hugs
Hannah
x
Hi Tracy,
So sorry you have had to join us, and very sorry that you also lost your dad at the weekend.
You will find lots of support on here, from lots of friendly people who are always here to listen and support in anyway they can.
Take Care
karen x
Hi Tracey,
So sorry to hear you lost your dad, also tha tyou have BC. As Karen says you will find lots of support on here.
I had a double mastectomy last month, and lost my ex-boyfriend/best mate a week later. I can only empathise and understand what your going through. My heartfelt thoughts are with you at this time.
I am in a different category, I had my op because of BRACA1 gene positive, and a very long list of maternal relatives that have had BC. So I opted to have them removed, I will be 30 end of this year. Peopl ask and say to me do you think you have done the right thing… My answer to them was, 1 it is to late now, and 2 It was the right decision for me.
Feel free to moan away on here, I only joined recently but find there are nice people here.
Wish you all the best with treatment, and for the next coming weeks, hurdles you will have to go through.
My Thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Take care
Tracey xx
Hi Tracey I am so sorry you have to have joined us on here. I am also sorry about your dad. It must be terrible for you to have had two shocks at once. You will get lots of support on here as the ladies are lovely. They will help you out with any questions that you have. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last December I had a mastectomy in January and had 8 sessions of chemo after. I finished my treatment the end of July and I have to take Arimadex tablets for the next 5 years. I am now back at work full time and I do feel well. It will be hard for you at the beginning just getting your head round it all. Once they tell you all what treatment you are having you will be a bit more positive about things. Please believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am not saying it will all be easy you will have a few bad days through chemo but we will be here to help you through it. Please let us know how you are doing and if you want to ask anything then dont hesitate to ask. Please Take Care Love Linda xxxx
Dear Tracy
Welcome to the Breast Cancer Care chat forums. I am sure you will continue to recieve lots of help and advice from the many informed users of this site.
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Lucy
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as the others have said, welcome to the site you are in the right place here as you will get loads of support to get you through this. so sorry to hear about your dad.
I have just finished my treatment (dx valantines day) all I have left is the daily pill popping for 5 years. It is daunting at the start to think of how much treatment you need but I felt much better regarding this when the treatment had actually started - it was as if something was being done to get rid of it. I’ve had chemo and rads and can tell you that in my experience it is very doable - you can expect to get bad days but also good days. learn to enjoy those good days and make them special. I finished rads last week and I’m now trying to get my life back to a bit of normality - I go on holidays in 4 weeks time then after I return I intend to start back work.
good luck with your treatment. remember when you are feeling down and want to rant - use this site, its brill
Hi Tracey sorry to hear you have bc. I was dx in Oct grade 2, wle and sentinel node, all clear. Rads start in Nov. Started tamoxifen 2wks ago.
Also sorry to hear about your dad, I lost my dad 5yrs ago. What kept me going was knowing that all the memories of my dad were happy one’s and I still smile when ever I think of him. It’s going to be hard for you over the next few weeks but keep your chin up and let us know how your doing.
Hi Carole sorry to hear your news and that you were alone when told. It must be hard with your bloke away on business. Don’t feel guilty about telling your sister I’m sure she would rather know and be there to support you. I also went through spells of tears and lightheadedness in the first few weeks. My husband was very upset when told but he has been great and helps me to keep things in perspective as it’s easy to let your mind wander too far. I have 3 children aged 26,23 & 21 and I’m looking forward to grandchildren 1 day.
Best of luck to you
Love from Caz xx
Hi everyone and thank you so much for your replys .I felt so alone, although hubby family friends etc are great, but no one really knows what you are feeling or going through unless you have been there. I seem to get highs and lows all through out the day and even worst at night time, but hey I intend to be strong and trying hard to keep positive.
I am now quite addicted to this site and find reading sometimes is a comfort. Any way thanks for listening once agin and may I wish each and everyone one of you all the very best. Just out of interest anyone in the Berkshire area?
Take care love Tracy
Hi Tracey
I am in North Hampshire very close to Reading
I am 35 married with a 7 yr old
Have finshed chemo now halfway through radiotherapy and also have started tamoxifen. As well as BC i also have bone mets in my hip. I had a lumpectomy and sentinel node back in May
You will get highs and lows all the way through this - mine were terrible during chemo but am perking up now its over. The fatigue is what i sufffer most from
You will find lots of support from this website -i did!
Julie
Hi Tracey,
Just read your first message and really feel for you. I was diagnosed begining Sept and am due to start my first chemo tomorrow in Reading. Am going through huge range of emotions too, sometimes feeling quite determined and sometimes completely helpless, but think it will get better once I start chemo, hopefully will feel like I’m taking control again.
Hope your treatment goes well, stay strong,
Louisa
Hi Tracy
I can’t imagine how you are coping with two awful pieces of news at the same time. My greatest sympathies go to you and your family. I am 29, diagnosed 3 weeks ago. Went to fertility clinic in Oxford today to start IVF cycle to freeze embryos as we had just started trying for children when dx. It’s all been a mad rush - from reading lots of other people’s stories I think that’s quite common. I too am just outside Reading.
Take care
Vicky
Hi Tracy,
How awful for you. I know exactly what you are going through as I lost my mum in January, and was then dx with bc in February just three weeks later. I was 44 at the time, with three teenage children.
I was advised by a BC nurse to go for counselling, which I have done and have found it very useful. Otherwise you have no chance to mourn your dad as your head is so full of your dx & treatment. I have now finished chemo (had mastectomy first) and am having rads & tamoxifen, with herceptin to start after rads. Now I feel so much better I find I am getting upset all over again about my mum - I guess I now have the space in my brain to think it all through again, and am grieving for her in a way I couldn’t when I was in the middle of chemo and could only concentrate on myself.
Thinking of you
RR
xx