Hi, my name is Wendy,I am 43yrs old, I went to doctors with a lump in my left breast three months ago. I was told nothing to worry about, but I didn’t feel happy with that and went to another doctor and sent she sent me to breast clinic, I had mammogram on 22ND October and was told that lump in left breast nothing to worry about, but the mammogram showed something in the right breast,they did a core biopsy that day and I was told It didn’t look good, I was in shock and by myself,I went back four days later and told I have Grade 3 Ductal breast cancer I am having lumpectomy,sentinel node biopsy on Friday 13Th October.I no I am so lucky it was found.I just feel so scared, but it has helped reading the posts on this forum. Thanks I just wanted to talk to others who are in the same boat.
wendy - so sorry that you have had to join us - but you will find a lot of support and advice on here… {{{hugs}}}
hope all goes well for the op on friday and that you are soon home…
take care
theresa x
Ki Wenday
So sorry you had to join us. I’m 42 and was diagnosed with grade 3 ductal in Sept. I’ve had it removed and start chemo tomorrow. You are in the hardest place at the moment, waiting for results and a treatment plan, but it does get easier. Feel free to pm me, if you pefer, or I’ll catch you again on this site.
Take care
Julia xx
Oops. Sorry for spelling
Julia
hi wendy,i am 43 diagnosed in april with a grade 3 17mm tumour and one lymph node,all i can say is go with all the treatment,i was told that because i was 43 and had a grade 3 i had to have chemo,i have just finished chemo and it isnt that bad,the first few weeks are the worse,you will meet alot of lovely women on here keep posting it really helps,hugs dawn xxxxxxxx
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Sam (BCC Facilitator)
Hi Wendy,
Hope all goes well for you tomorrow. I had lump removed and SNB in September. Am now underway with chemo (2nd session today) and there is such a lot of support here on this site, you will get through it. Personally the hardest day for me was when they told me I had it and had to have chemo and rads. You just feel so out of control. Loads of help and advice here on this site if you need it, or just people that are happy to listen to you rant and rave. feel free to PM or keep in touch here!
Karen xx
Hi Wendy,
Hope your op went well yesterday. Like Karen, I had lump removed and SNB in Sept and am now 2 down with the chemo. I’ve found so much help comfort and support here, so please let us know how you are doing once you feel up to it.
Feel free to PM or chat here, it really is great to speak to others, and we’re all going through this together.
Sarah
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hi wendy just like you i was havin problem in one breast and was referred with that it came back ok but found the tumour in my right breast had biopsy got my results on the 13th oct had my surgery on the 11th nov been home now 2 days i was petrified my daughter is also called wendy i know i have also got to have cheymo so we are more or less starting this journey together hope your surgery went well i just feel a little tired and a bit of pain the staff have been great could not wish for more my mum has also had both breast removed with cancer 12 years apart and i am an identical twin and her and my daughter are going on a genectic screening programe i am 50 years old look forward to hearin from you good luck wendy i will be thinkin of you jackiexx
Hi I’m new to all this unfortunately, just diagnosed on Friday with invasive ductal cancer in left side. Still in shock as only found lump 10days ago but have been seen v quickly. Booked to have mastectomy in 3 weeks. Just had awful weekend having to tell family plus my three kids, twin boys 13 and daughter 9.
I’m 47 and never thought I’d be in this situation and dont know anyone who has so would value your support,
Thanks
Tessa
Hi Tessa,
I have only had 2 ops for lump removal and now underway with FEC chemo following up with rads next year so prob not the best person in your particular situation but there will be plenty of people here ready to help and support you. Finding out the news and trying to explain to family and friends is the pits - I found I went from shock to despair to anger and just feeling totally out of control. Once treatment started at least I felt I was doing something positive to fight this damn thing. Take all the support you get from family and friends, keep positive and know that there is always support here from people going through the same as you here and know exactly how you are feeling having been there themselves! Chin up and good luck. Keep us posted.
Karen xx
Hi Tessa
I’m not quite the same situation as you (no kids and have had lumpectomy) but the same diagnosis. It is hell but, I think, gets easier when you start treatment. I had my first chemo last week and it went smoothly, but i’m probably just lucky on that one!
Take care
Julia xx
Hi all, Thank you to everyone who posted a reply.They were a great comfort to me.
I had my operation on Friday 13Th nov, had lumpectomy and SNB,The lump was 17mm .In a bit of pain for a couple of days but feel much better now, just been taking it easy, I was only In for the day, didn’t see my consult before I came home but go back on 25Th nov for results.
The waiting feels so long, but saying that its all happened so quick.
From being told I had BC to op was only three wks.Its such a lot to take in and like a lot of the posts I have read I am also still in shock,numb and very scared. I do no that my BC is oestrogen positive and that I am having radiotherapy and hormone therapy. I will find out on 25Th if I am to have chemo that will depend on my results.Has any else had the same diagnosis as me.I have always had problems with hormones and had a hysterectomy twelve months ago,but kept my ovaries.sorry for such a long post,you are all in my thoughts and thankyou again. wendy xxxxxxxxxx
Hi Wendy
Your diagnosis and symptoms are exactly the same as mine. I too had hysterectomy but 3 1/2 years ago and am oestrogen postive grade 3 invasive ductal. The dates of all your ‘stuff’ tallies with mine although I am due to go back in tomorrow 18th for another WLE to get a clearer safety margin - not achieved on 28th Oct.but been told Radiotherapy to strt around Xmas., ? chemo and Tamoxifen for 5 years. Doesn’t your head want to explode initially! way to much to take on but I have settled a little bit now. Definitely use this site - it may be scary sometimes with some fo the things you read but you are not alone. I’m beginning to feel I’ve just ‘inherited’ another family Love & Hugs Leigh xxx
Hi leigh,
Thanks for reply, good luck for tomorrow,I hope all goes well for you. If you don’t mind telling me how big was your lump mine was 17mm.
I agree with the feeling of head exploding its just so much to take in, the breast nurse rang me today to see how I was feeling after op, that reassured me that I am in good hands we all are,she said the waiting can be hard but once results are back I will no what my treatment plan is going to be,I will definitely keep posting as its so nice to talk to others who no what its like to be on this journey.
love and hugs too you also, wendy xxxxxxxx
Hi karen,Julia etc
Thanks for your replies, have had a mad busy and emotional week so haven’t been back on this forum till now, most of family now know, still lots of friends to get in touch with but cant quite face that at moment. Still have two more weeks till my surgery which seems a lifetime away and yet is giving me time to do my Xmas shopping…mad I know but with 3 kids it has to be done…will keepyou posted
Tessa xx
Hi tessa, sorry i didn’t see your first post, it is such a shock when you first get told you have bc,its a very hard time as well telling family and friends, i wish you well with your operation, keep posting or reading posts they have helped me,take hugs wendy xxxx
Hi Ladies
I am in the same boat as you. I had a 3 cm Invasive ductal removed with WLE and SNB on the 2nd November. So far so good and I find out on Wednesday 25th what other treatment is in store. It is Oestrogen positive too so I imagine it will be Tomoxifen and I know it will be RT but exactly how long for I am not sure. I am truly an Island girl and will have to travel by ferry every day for treatment. What a club this is. The one no one wants to join but it has lots of members!! Isn’t it great that we have this support though.
V X
Hi Island girl,
I had 17mm grade 3 ductal not sure if it was invasive, had WLE and SNB on 13Th Nov, get my results same day as you 25Th,it was also Oestrogen positive, i have been told i will go on tamoxifen and radiotherapy and chemo if any of the lymph nodes were involved,i am at my wits end and getting quite emotional at the moment i just want to get Wednesday over with, i don t post a lot but read most posts and they have kept me going through this,i wish you luck with your results on wed keep in touch.
hugs wendy xxxxxxx
Hello Wendy & Hi to all others
Thank you wendy for the request for contact, I would be most appreciative to be a contact for you and for us to compare notes etc.
Last Weds operation went well as far as I know, have to see Breast Surgeon again with Oncologist on the 4th December. Breast Specialist is still intimating that my Rads will commence just after Xmas! Hey Ho - not really what I wanted from Santa but gotta be done:).
Still on the emotional roller coaster and yes, having the feeling that its happening to you but you have actually popped outside for a bit seems to be quite the norm. I opened a card today from a friend and wept buckets, no warning, wasn’t feeling too glum either so where this surge of water came from I have no idea but i’ve decided that whatever emotion envelopes me at any time I am going to let it flow rather than bottle. Everyone has been warned and in a way I think it has helped my family and friends to know that any starnge behaviour exhibited, is just a way of me dealing with the journey I am on. Sounds selfish but I think we have to be sometimes in order to allow ourselves deal with all the info we get and the weight of the emotions and feelings that we have.
Hope whatever is happening to any of you on the 25th goes well - my love and hugs to each of you individually Leigh xxxxx