hi, had my first appointment today. had a triple assessment with a core biopsy. was told i more than likely have cancer in my left breast and a possible benign tumour in my right breast. feeling terrified at the moment, the thought of chemo and radiotherapy and feeling ill is mind numbing. any words of support would be gratefully appreciated x
Hi sorry you had to join us here but you will find it a source of information and help to get you through this. I was diagnosed at the end of last year and have finished chemo and now having radiotherapy. It is all doable just take one step at a time and be kind to yourself. Once you have your results and have a treatment plan it does become less confusing. Good luck and keep in touch. x
Hi Sopharies and welcome to the BCC forums
I am sure you will continue to receive support and information from your fellow users, in addition here’s the link to our new resource pack which has been designed to help those newly diagnosed;
Please also feel free to call our helpline on 0808 800 6000 for a ‘listening ear’, here you can talk through your concerns with someone in confidence which may help, the line is open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2.
Take care
Lucy
Hi,
Waiting for results and the unknown is the hardest part…I was where you are now last November. Have had a mastectomy and finished chemo and radiotherapy. I was dreading chemo, for me the worst part but it honestly wasn’t as bad as I feared. Once you have a treatment plan you will feel more reassured. Try to take it a day at a time and not look too far ahead,
Good luck xx
Hello it is the hardest part waiting for results I was diagnosed on the 2nd August and go for a MX tomorrow, this forum as kept me sane these past weeks knowing that other people are going through this, and others have been throught this, there is a lot of help on here, good luck,
Celia.x
Sopharies, big hug to you. We all know how you are feeling. The shock does wear off after a while, especially once you have your results and treatment plan. Have they told you you will need Chemo? Lots of ladies don’t. I have just finished my Chemo and it was ok, better than I had thought. You are dealing with s massive shock right now, so be very kind to yourself. Try not to read to far ahead as you will probably scare yourself witless about things that will probably never happen to you. All the very best, vickie xxx
Celia , hope tmrw goes well for you, will be thinking of you.
sopharies - I was in the same position as you exactly one year ago. I was then diagnosed with invasive lobular breast cancer, as you can see from my profile details. I had the lump removed in September and radiotherapy in Dec/Jan. I am now on hormone therapy for five years. I was very lucky that there was no evidence of spread and didn’t have chemo.
The waiting is truly dreadful. You don’t yet know that it is breast cancer but, if it is, you will be shocked and yes, it totally changes your world and way of thinking. However, you will eventually get accustomed to the idea and just get on with whatever treatment is offered, one step at a time.
You will get so much help from the people on this site, who can answer your questions, give you support and advice and share their experiences. Try not to look too far ahead as you can read some very scary things which, hopefully, may never apply to you.
I wish you good luck with your results. Please let us know how you get on.
Celia - Good luck for tomorrow.
Ann xxx
Hi
I’m in the same position as you. Was diagnosed last week but awaiting results of an MRI for the full picture. Feel like I’m walking around in a bubble at the moment and the whole world is going on around me. Trying to be positive, but like you I am frightened/confused and just about everything else in between. Hopefully this site enables us to go through this full range of emotions with others who understand.
I’m 41 with a 2 1/2 year old and he is what is keeping me functioning at the moment.
Good luck to both of us and take care.
Hi bish
Welcome to the BCC forums, please feel free to access the link to the new resource pack I have recently posted to Sopharies above. The helpline is here to offer you support too so please do call if you feel it would help to share your worries with someone in confidence on 0808 800 6000, weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2.
I am also posting to another link, it’s to a book called ‘Mummy’s lump’ which you may find helpful along the way if you decide to talk to your little boy about having breast cancer at some point:
Take care
Lucy
hi and a huge thanx to all who left me a message. the big thing i have realised is not to read too much whilst waiting as doing this has definitely frightened the life out of me. just keeping going for the moment but spent most of today at work feeling sick as hell. luckily i have some wonderful people to work with who have been fabulously supportive and i have only been there three months. keep those messages coming, they really helpx
sopharies - I was just wondering how you are doing. How long do you have to wait for your results?
Ann x
Dear sopharies and bish1
I was feeling exactly the same back in June when I realised that I must have bc. The waiting was awful, but my expectations were worse; I was quite convinced that I had cancer everywhere and was terminal, and persuaded my husband that he could marry a gorgeous new woman, but first we had to put the house in trust for our children. Well, now I expect he is slightly disappointed, as he is stuck with same woman minus a breast!
My advice is to pamper yourself as much as possible; massages, baths, music, candles, and not let anyone else’s worries concern you. The future will come without your help, so concentrate on the present.
good luck x
nidavellir - You made me laugh out loud with your tale of the gorgeous new woman!
I think we all put two and two together and make five when we are diagnosed. Every ache, pain and symptom anywhere in the body must be related to bc. It is only natural because at the beginning we just don’t know. It is hard not to let your imagination run away with you, isn’t it?
Ann x
Sorry, website so slow - posted twice.