i joined the site yesterday having received my diagnosis. Still waiting on CT scan to establish if contained to my breast/lymph nodes. My moods have been to the extreme, very hopeful and positive to rock bottom. My worst time sober the last few weeks has always been first thing in the morning, when it hits you… what might be and now it hits me what it actually is … cancer. I never thought it would be and am struggling to come to terms with the why me.
any advice anyone’s can give on how to move forward from this would help me greatly.
Oh we can all relate to that “why me?”, it is the shock of it all but it will get better, once you know what is going to happen and when, it is strangely re-assuring because you know something is being done to make you better.
I was the same, I had my diagnosis, was fine with it and re-assured with my treatment plan, then a couple of days later it was like “why me, havent I had enough rubbish,” then I thought well why not me, I can get through this I have done it before with my childhood condition. It is not easy and you will have up and down days, but you know that we will always be there to support you. I think the trick is to give yourself small milestones that are realistic instead of trying to think too far ahead, that stuff can be dealt with as and when it needs to be
It’s a roller coaster of a journey with ups and downs aplenty. The only answer to the Why Me? question is Why not me?
Denial - this phase is something we all go through I think as it is easier than facing up to it all but unfortunately reality comes back to you and hits you again. It feels as if you are underwater I think, trying to get back up to the surface. Keep talking about your fears on here where it is safe and with trusted friends - don’t worry if they say daft things back though as they don’t understand any more than you do at the moment.
