How do you cope with the waiting?

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Hi everyone!
I am 28 years old and have just been referred to the breast clinic.
How do you cope with the waiting?
In my more rational moments, I know that the chances are everything will be fine but then the panic sets in and I am convinced they will tell me I have breast cancer.
I really hope the wait isn’t too long!!!

x

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Hi Emma

I think you’re experiencing natural thoughts and emotions at the moment, I know I’m the same, I go to the breast clinic on the 23rd of this month and I have to say the waiting is torture, some days are good for me and others are bad, like yourself I tell myself its nothing but the other thoughts always have a way of pushing past my rationalisation and telling me its bad news, try to keep yourself busy Emma, it does help to an extent, and there are lots of lovely people on here to talk to if those thoughts get too much, bye for now.

Take care and good luck with the clinic, let us know how you get on.

Debbi xx

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Hi Emma,
welcome to the forums, i too hope your wait isn’t too long and that when you go they can put your mind at rest. There are many more that get good news and leave the forum than there are that don’t and stay.
whilst you are waiting, and yes, the waiting is very hard, then do feel free to use the forums to offload if needs be and even support others, like you, that are waiting too.
regards
Ruth

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Hi Emma and Debbi

Welcome to the site that no-one really wants to join, but we’re all here for each other, and for you if you need us!

The waiting is definitely the worst time, my heart goes out to you both, but like Ruth says, there are many that get good news - it’s not always bad, although no matter how much reassurance you get, I know we all fear the worst while we’re waiting.

Good luck to both of you, please let us know how you get on.

Love & a huge hug to you both

Julie

xxx

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Hi Emma,it’s not easy.I’m like Debbi,waiting till the 23rd for an appointment.My emotions are everywhere.I swing from being positive to feeling really negative.I haven’t had a decent night sleep for 4-5 nights now,so feel shattered.I am trying to keep busy at work,but even that is hard.I am diabetic too,so my sugar levels are affected by stress so I am finding my control is not good at the moment.As Ruth and Julie said,there are a lot of people who get a happy end to their story.Take care,and remeber you are not on your own.

Jacqui

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Hi there,

the waiting is really hard. I know I had many sleepless nights too. I would try to keep going and then realised I needed some ‘down time’ and so let hubby take care of the kids for me or help with cooking so I could just go lie down or eat chocolate! Then when I felt a bit more ‘like me’ I got back into working & being a mum and wife again. But I was up and down and I think it’s normal. Go with how you are feeling and allow yourselves to do whatever it takes for you to get through the day. Don’t expect too much from yourselves and if you need to slow down then try to do so.

I do also know that after several days of not sleeping and just moping around worrying, I had a stern talk with myself and realised that I couldn’t change the outcome by worrying, that whatever the lump was couldn’t be changed. It already was either cancerous or not. And my kids were starting to wonder what on earth was wrong with mummy! So I decided to start thinking positively and it did help me. I was able to put the thoughts to the back of my mind. But it was an effort!

Thankfully my lump turned out to be benign but I certainly wouldn’t want to go through the whole experience again any time soon. Hang in there and I will be praying you get good results and that you will manage to get some rest & sleep & some peace in the waiting time.

Nanny