I found an information pack from Breast Cancer Care in our house today, and now I’m worried my mum either has cancer, or is being investigated for it.
I want to ask her about it, but don’t want to force her to tell me something she doesn’t want to share. I want to know so I can be there for her and be supportive, because my Dad is great, but he’s not very good at coping, so I want to ensure she has me to turn to as well.
Also, just for my own sanity, I would like to know.
I just don’t know what is best for her. Any suggestions?
John (24)
If it was me John, id sit her down and just ask, if you have that kind of relationship with her where you can openly discuss anything. I hope that its not cancer. Id be like mum i found the information pack and then see what she says, just reassure her that she doesnt have to tell you but you are there if you need to be.
Hope that helps
Love kezxxx
Hi John
I’m with Kez on this one. I’d suggest letting your mum know that you’ve seen the info pack and that you’re worried about it. That opens up an opportunity for her to tell you if she wants to, or to put your mind at rest if there is another reason for her having it.
Don’t be hurt or offended if there are things she hasn’t told you; if she is worried about being ill she may need time to get her head round it herself or have questions to sort out with her doctor before discussing it with anyone else. When I first went to the hospital with my lump I was told right away that it was a tumour. However, I didn’t tell anyone about it until I’d seen a breast care nurse, the surgeon and the oncologist. I just wasn’t prepared until I had a clear idea what was wrong and what treatment I would be given.
Good luck. Stockbeck
Hi Stockbeck and Kez.
Thank you both so much for your advice. I asked her about it and it turns out it was for a charity presentation to her local Women’s Group thing, as this year they are attempting to raise for BCC. I was so relieved and got a bit emotional.
It was definitely a good idea to ask, because now I’m at ease, and I have reaffirmed to her that she can tell me anything (and she said of course she’d have told me anyway).
I read a lot of the chat forums on this site before I asked her, and want to say thanks to everyone who has given advice to others that I have read, and thanks to everyone for sharing their stories so openly and honestly.
I truly wish everyone on this site the best of times and admire the courage and love expressed in the stories here.
My best, all
John
Aww John i am glad that she hasnt got it, a sigh of relief for yourself. The people on here are wonderful they have certainly helped me though a very messy month.
Take care
love kez xxx
Hi John
Just SO PLEASED for you and your mum that she’s OK. So nice to hear such good news. Also delighted that her group are raising money for BCC, my favourite charity!
All the best, Stockbeck