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On the book thing I agree “I Am Not Just Cancer” would make a great title. I know it’s not about breast cancer but one of my favourite books ever is “C:Because Cowards Get Cancer Too…” by John Diamond. A fantastic title I’ve always thought because it’s true, everyone thinks when you’ve got cancer you’re “really brave” and “so strong” and “I’m sure I couldn’t be like you, I’d fall to pieces” etc. But the truth of the matter is cancer happens to normal people who are scared and just want to survive.
Good luck with the greyhound Val, looks like it’s worth checking out some other places. I find it incredible that with so much animal abuse in this country the fact your medical condition is more relevant than the fact that you are obviously a dedicated animal lover. Crazy!!
It seems from your posts that the on/off support thing is across the board. For me one great thing to come out of this dreadful experience is the way that some people who were just acquaintances, who I expected nothing from, have been fantastic and really come up with the goods. I have become very close to these people in a very short time and am sure they will be friends for life because of what we are sharing. They are now closer than friends I’ve known since school, just shows it’s the quality of time not the quantity that counts.
I have a nice piece that I was once emailed on this subject. It’s a bit long for a forum but very apt if you want to take the time to read it:
"People come into your Life for a reason, a season or lifetime when you know which one it is,
You will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to
Assist you through difficulty to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a
Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an
End. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up
And force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been
Met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has
Been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They
Bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you
Something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount
Of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build
Upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept
The lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all
Other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind
But friendship is clairvoyant."
Alison
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