It was my kids who helped me through the difficult times. I was 39 which I had my chemo and mastectomy and the kids were just 7 and 14 years old. I have had bone mets for the last ten years now and my girls are 28 and 34 years old. It really gave me the strength to get through it all. Your post ladies are inspirational and it is lovely to hear such positiveness . Hope you all live to see your kids grow up like I did. Much love Val
val your post is very reasuring from day one when i had my first dx i told my pregnant daughter who was crying her eyes out at the time that she dont need to worrie cos im going to be a great granma (have a 4 yr old grandson with one due in may too) before i kick it in the car on the way home she came out with i know you going to be fine mom ill kill ya first in the car all in a fun way stoped me thinking about the DX i was watching how well she was driving lol . right now im teaching them all how to do the washing ect cos come wens im out of action lol i wounder how long it will last
J i have heard many names but boobie funnel that is so funny lol
dee i bet thats wot my teens will be saying to me too
tc all of you maz xx
When my daughters were younger I told them I wasn’t going until I had a grsnd child in my arms. Neither have had a baby yet. They say they are not ready yet! I am still hoping that one day I will hold one in my arms though. I recently knitted a baby shawl for my friend’s Daughter’s baby. I had a “wee shot” and he is just lovely. But would like one of my own someday! Love Val
So reassuring your comments!!! im still a good way off grandkids as this miserable disease robbed me of 6 years so i was a late starter and my 2 are only 9 and 7!! but one day i WILL hold that next generation in my arms!!!-“” and val , you made me smile i havent heard “wee shot” since i left edinburgh!!! where i lived for 11 years, where i will be travelling back to for mx xxxxx
I am in Edinburgh, so PM me when you are attending and if I am about I will visit you in hospital if you wish. The WGH? If so the best hospital in the country where the doctors are the best in the land. Do you still live in Scotland? Love Val
No north wales borders, yes agree bout wgh wil send pm xx
my mom was in scotland when she had bc she has said the very same thing they are better up there at dealing with it they took very good care of her which im very thankful for cos we were here its been over 10 yrs now and i still got my mom ,
j only reason i have a grandson is i was a very young mom myself but im proud of them all roll on may when my next one will be here it is a fab feeling and the best part is you get to give em back lol
honeybee! give me some of ur zest 4 life!thought i was being NORMAL AND POSITIVE til i nu ur situation!go with it hun all the way thru be rooting 4 u u can so do this f***ing pants disease !ggrr i hate that word sounds so nasty! two fingers up 2 the c word lets all bring it on and be well !love and stuff xx alex xx
Way to go mummysboob!!! agree with u, also the which hospital u at part, im at Shrewsbury Hosp in Shropshire and its totally fab they are so loving make u feel so human and not just another patient, they show such tlc its great, great as can be!! Shar xxx
hi silvershar im with derby royal blooming hate hosps buy never mind .hope they will be my nu best friends in the coming months! my consultant was a bit scarey but ive met worse! ha xx
I was so lucky with my consultant and onc, they both liked that i wanted to learn and understand the science bit and already made friends with the chemo nurses and keep everyone upbeat and smiling, sink or swin and i am swimming but must admit need more lessons but im sooo determind, tho sank a bit yesterday as still low from cutting waist length hair and now short but now starting to malt big time…i m on da 16 post FEC1
Shar x
hi silvershar. bit behind u,wle and snd nxt mon crapping myself havent even met an onc!my bcn has beem fab tho went to gp with THE LUMP 2 being dx 6 days later with idc 2,5 wel andsnd in 2 wks sent me into bit of headspin
ps from ur pic, ur hair is so like mine.gosh i havnt got thru the worst bit yet but the hair loss will be so hard 4 me u r being so brave heyho bring it on!my kids will probably find the wig thing highly amusing!alex xx
alex we are all in this together and positive is the way to go x
shar i will be at shrewsbury too having op in telford (home town ) but shrewsbury is when the chemo at got an aunt who said she will be waiting for me as i dont think dragging my daughter there with new baby (should be here by the time i start) will be any good to me you never know i may see you there
xx maz
Hello all
Sorry to butt in, I am at Poole Hospital in Dorset and I have to say they are just lovely too. The Consultant was so comforting and not at all rushing, she discussed everything with me in so much detail and to my husband as well. The BCN’s are just fabulous, they could see from my previous appointments that I was trying too hard to keep all my feelings in and not dealing with it so at my last appointment last Thursday I was grabbed by one of them for a “chat” and some half hour later and many many tears I think I finally accepted I have cancer and just how serious it really is.
Hoping they treat me just as well tomorrow when I have my WLE and SLNB, will let you know how it goes.
Love
Tracy xx
minniemnix, hope it goes well tommorrow, I,m waiting again!!! xxx other girls im a shropshire lass!!was born is shawbury! Im not that far from shrewsbury now, my nan was treated there some years ago xxx
Hey J I live very near Shawbury-does anyone else feel a Shropshire meet coming on??
What about shropshire and the welsh borders, coz that’s whre I am now.I am though (hopefully) going to edinburgh for my mx as I have been with that team for the last 14 years. I have been going up there for annual mammos since 1997, I had a clear one in June 2010…as far as this all goes (bc) I wish I still lived there!!! xxxxxx I do thgough love where I am now…back in the rurals xxxx
Hello J and Honeybee I am Shropshire too!! Had my op at Telford, both times and starting chemo at Shrewsbury hospital on wednesday. A shropshire meet would be fun (is that the right word??) good suggestion Horace. So many of us starting at the same time, small world…Rachel
I think it is great that you have found each other here. Support from people going through the same things is so helpful. Go for it girls. Val