Hello I am taking tdm1 and have been.told I.will.be on.chemo for life. I want to have a child with my partner because we don’t have a family and I love children.
Can I.get pregnant? I.know there are dangers and I would not want to harm my child but I can’t bear the thought of not having a baby with my husband. I am so scared I.am going to die and leave nothing behind and I have started having panic attacks. I can’t sleep at night. I am only in my early 30’s and desperately want to live my life. I have too much to offer to die, too much to live for.
Thanks for reading xx
I think you should ring the helpline or talk to your consultant about this. I do understand that you want a child but chemo can harm your baby. I dont know about tdm1 but you really shoudlnt get pregnant without discussing it with someone on your medical team.
Hi kess thanks for your reply.
I spoke to my consultant about it before and she basically said that I wasn’t to have a baby because.I wouldn’t be around to.look after.it. This upset me and made me dislike her. I feel.she is quite negative, I.don’t plan.on dying anytime soon, I want to live. My medical.team.have been.good but I.have also.been.let down.and I feel.I can’t agree with.everything the consultant says.
Hi kess thanks for your reply.
I spoke to my consultant about it before and was basically told that I wasn’t to have a baby because.I wouldn’t be around to.look after.it. This upset me and made me dislike the consultant . I feel.my consultant is negative, I.don’t plan.on dying anytime soon, I want to live. My medical.team.have been.good but I.have also.been.let down.and I feel.I can’t agree with.everything the consultant says.
Those sound like very harsh words to hear from your consultant. Did he/she give any clinical advice about getting pregnant or was the advice only about life expectancy?
Did you love children and want to have a child with your partner before treatment?
It sounds like you have a lot of thoughts and feelings flying around.
Hi Melek
I am sorry to read that you are feeling so scared, please do call our helpliners to talk things through on 0808 800 6000, lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi I have had lots of different chemos and have been told I will be on chemo for life. I have so many thoughts going around in my head and I’m scared. I will give the helpline a phone.
Thank you xx