I’m here,just! Cathy and Philenoma
I’m here,just! Cathy and Philenoma Sorry I haven’t been around for a couple of days.
Tuesdays appointment made me feel like I had been hit by a double decker bus. I feel like I have been removed from this world for the last couple of days.
The appointment was OK, I just talked for an hour about the day my life changed and what has happened since. The referral letter from the Pl Sgn, suggested that the problems were related to the BC, and I told her that for me life changed the day my brother was diagnosed.
She told me I would probably feel exhausted for the rest of the day, and to do something nice, because it was the first time I talked about everything that had happened ,in an hour. That wasan understatement. I went to Asda to get the milk, and then came home and crashed! I didn’t want to speak to anyone, or see anyone.
We have agreed that I will see her again in two weeks. I am sceptical, because I said that that was what had happened in the past, and how was I going to move on. She said that was a huge question! I’m not convinced that just talking with help me. You guys on here help and support me where others don’t. I have a good circle of friends. SO we’ll have to see. I suppose the difference is I can moan and groan about whoever I want, with no fear of her knowing who I’m talking about!
Thanks so much for caring. I did go to the pub last night with my girlfriends from work! Meeting a friend for lunch tomorrow, and out in the evening for a meal, so this is a great weekend coming!!
Speak soon.
xx
Frustration! Hi J.
Excuse me while I swear! I’d almost finished writing you a reply to your post when the phone rang and when I came back to the computer I’d been timed-out!!!
Thanks so much for posting even when all you wanted to do was hibernate. I did that myself recently but Cathy’s post dragged me back to the real world again and I must admit to feeling better for it. It helps when you know there are people who really do care.
There are different approaches to therapy and some are bettered suited to some people (and some problems) than others, so while it’s too soon to say whether yours suits you or not, so you might want to find out what sort your therapist practises?
There are counsellors, pyschoanalysists and behaviourists to name but a few. What they’ll all have in common are strategies to help you begin to feel better such as stopping negative thoughts, getting enough sleep and relaxation and doing things which give you pleasure long-term (Choc, alas, wears off too quickly for me and then I get upset about the obesity!).
It’s really great that you’ve got good friends and people to enjoy being with - and when you don’t feel like going out, there is always this chat forum. If you want to hibernate, that’s OK, too. It’s just that we care about you and wanted you to know that.
Have you had enough “advice” for now or dare I share with you one of my own coping strategies?
I get a large piece of card (the inside of a cereal packet will do) and write on it in large letters “EverythingChanges”. Then to remind me that things can change either for the better or for the worse and I want them to keep changing back to the better, I surround the words with pictures and photos of people, places, events and objects that always bring me good feelings when I think of them. Place your card next to your bed so you see it first thing in the morning and last thing at night or put it on the loo door - or make two. Update them as and when.
I’m here if you need me.
Love, laughter and sticky-back-plastic cyberhugs from P. xx