I was diagnosed yesterday with invasive and lobular breast cancer, lymph nodes involved. Waiting for MRI and CT scans and very scared that it has spread. Won’t see consultant for treatment plan for 2 weeks. Trying to work but on another plane. Keep crying - haven’t cried for years. How do other people get through this time?
Hi
I am 2 weeks ahead of you I think, just got my MRI results this week. The waiting is the most awful thing I know. I have not been back to work since first told at my check up (4 weeks ago) I do think ahead way too much. I am getting nearer my treatment plan. A few more biopsies to go after MRI shown some other bits so need to be sure what they are.
I have found everything totally overpowering and all consuming, I can’t face telling anyone yet apart from very close friends.
BUT I am starting to see my treatment plan come together and it Realy does help to know what to expect.
Hugs
Vintage x
hi Forest, it is a shock on diagnosis & we have all been there with the feelings you describe. Waiting for scans & results is the worst part, but once you know where you are going with the treatment plan, it feels better. It probably doesn’t feel like it now, but thankfully, you are in the system, so it can be dealt with.
I coped by trying to deal with one appointment or situation at a time & had my husband with me on appointments. I also found that letting others know who you feel comfortable with was a great support. I decided to take sick leave from work as my job involves dealing with vulnerable people & I found it hard to concentrate, however, I appreciate work considerations vary.
I also avoided google, & preferred to rely on the clinical team for information & advice.
Do take care of yourself & do what you feel you need to, to get through this stage
ann
xxx
Hi
This really is the worst part. Waiting for results is definitely the hardest. As you feel that nothing is happening and in that time you worry that the cancer may spread. I think we have all had those thoughts.
My advice is to read as much as you can so you are prepared for whatever may happen. This site is brilliant
It provides support and information because we are all in the same boat and there is no better advice than from someone who is going through the same situation as you.
Good luck xx
How are you feeling forestrambler. Tough times isn’t it. Been reading so many posts on here… Gives you some strength and you know you’ve got the support on here from others just like you. Xx
I’m a mess to be honest. Feel sick and not really eaten for days now. Just cant think of nothing else. My friends n family are helping but its too difficult to put it into words. Xx hopefully we will get through this and put it behind us. Xxx
Hello ladies. I’m in the same situation, waiting for final test results and treatment plan. Had mastectomy two weeks ago. It all happened really fast and after the shock I couldn’t eat or sleep or be bothered to get out of bed. It’s a vicious circle though - the less you eat the less you want to until you really can’t manage to. But we need to keep our strength up and someone suggested to me not to get hung up about breakfast, lunch, dinner, but just to have things in fridge to nibble whenever - small glass of milk, tiny piece of cheese, couple of grapes whatever. Or you can get those drinks (complan is one) which are like mini milkshakes with all the nutrition in. You can get them at chemist - think you might be able to get on prescription. Love to you all xxx
I am the same right now, still waiting on tests and results. No fixed treatment plan yet. It feels unbearable right now. I can totally feel your pain.
We have to get through this.
Hugs xx