Grrr I’m so down tonight.
Saw my onc last week and was discharged from him so should be feeling happy which I a, don’t get me wrong. But I keep thinking its not fair why do we have to go through this.5 years of tamoxifen when we should be getting on with our lives having babies not worrying about recurrence.
This time last year I was getting ready to start IVF now I doubt they’ll ever let me have it therefore il never be a mum.i know I should count my blessings and I do I really really do. But when I see all my old school friends pregnant( again) or with their little bundles of joy I can’t help feeling its not fair!
Onc didn’t help when he said I should concentrate on my career for 5 years. feel like I have to tell everyone I’m not able to starts family for at least 5 years just so I don’t have to deal with the when will you be having a family? Or your not pregnant are you? Comments
I’m sorry for having a rant I know I’ve been so lucky and my problems are tiny compared to others.
Xxx
Aaaw, Butterfly, I’m with you. My husband and I had just started trying for kids when I was diagnosed and it feels like ALL of my friends are popping babies out all over the place. 2 of my closest friends announced their pregnancies in the past month and while I am over the moon for them I couldn’t help but think that had things worked out that I would have been pregnant at the same time as them and it would have been so much fun to have had close friends with similar aged babies to play with.
I’ve got the added concern of whether the chemo has left me infertile.
Did your onc talk to you about potentially finishing Tamoxifen after 2 years? Apparently the majority of the benefit takes place in the first couple of years. But that’s one to talk through with him and maybe get a second opinion?
Sending sympathetic hugs as I know how you feel.
X
Me too, im worried about facing this issue properly when treatment is over. Hubby and i tried to conceive for 2 years and finally fell pregnant last year only to have a MC. It was shortly after this that i found my lump so havent really dealt with the whole infertile/no baby future and i know its going to be so difficult. Im pretty sure my BC was caused by my pregnancy so even if i am still fertile its something else to think about that it could happen again.
Ur right butterfly it really isnt fair, BC takes so much from us. Im the only one within my bunch of friends and family that doesnt have children and it just seems to be in my face all the time!
Big hugs to you ladies, it totally sucks xx
He said he liked to play by the rules think mine was very ER+ so I don’t know. I know I could come off early and make that decision myself but I don’t know. Asked my BCN is she,d let me come off after 2 years she said she preferred the sound of 3 years.
It’s so hard hugs back xx
Hugs to you ladies too x I managed to go the 5 years with Tamoxifen & was secretly hoping to try for a baby this year once I’d given the body a good few months to get the Tamoxifen out of my system. Sadly I now have a recurrence to deal with so suppose I need to concentrate on being glad to be here ( the outlook for me should be good as it hasn’t spread ) but I am gutted really especially as hubby is an only child plus my brother doesn’t have any children of his own (although he is a step father to 3). I feel like I’m ending the family blood line. I do have seven eggs (unfertilised) in the freezer that were harvested before chemo but this recurrence has scared me a bit. Am wondering what hormones treatments are now options for me as still pre-menopausal plus already done 5 years of Tamoxifen.
It’s not fair is it (stomps foot and pulls sulky face),
Twinky x
I really feel for u ladies. It’s hard enough to deal with having BC when your children are grown up as mine are but i can’t imagine how difficult it must be for u all. Sending ((hugs)) to u. xx