I’ve just been diagnosed. Grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma. I’m numb I think x x
Hi DMCF
So sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. I was diagnosed with the same back in November 2012. It had spread to one of my lymph nodes. I had mastectomy with 3 lymph nodes removed, followed by chemo but refused radiotherapy. Now on Anastrazole for at least 5 years as my cancer was 100% Oestrogen positive. I can honestly say I had a really easy time considering, and as far as cancer is concerned I am now classed as NED (no evidence of disease) but have annual mammogram/breast checks for 5 years. Wish I could say the rest of my health was good, but that’s nothing to do with BC.
When You have a treatment plan in place, you will begin to feel more in control. Just deal with each decision as it happens, don’t think of it all in one go. Sending you big hugs and wishing you the very best.
poemsgalore. xx
Thank you poemsgalore. Mine def isn’t hormone responsive. I’m only 31 just sat looking at my 2 babies & dreading the next few months. Consultant said we’ll discuss surgery ect in 3 weeks after I’ve had all other testing done so we know where we’re at x x
Hi DMcf
So so sorry to hear your news.
I was diagnosed two weeks ago. Exactly the same as you Grade 3 invasive Ductal carcinoma. Im 30 and I also have two children, 2 boys one nearly 3 and one is 7 months.
So definitely in the same boat as you.
All this waiting is definitely the worst bit, everyone says you will feel better once you have a treatment plan place and they are definitely right. Somehow I’ve managed to cope quite well, better than I thought I would.
I had my first chemotherapy session today so all felt very real!
Please don’t hesitate to talk to me about anything. Here for you xxxx
Hi kf791
Yeah I almost feel at peace with it today. As soon as he said I’m sorry to say its cancer. Everything became vivid. I was zoned in on exactly to what he was saying and it was all really clear. I have had a mammo and bloods done today. MRI of the breasts next Thursday and a body MRI (app yet to come) as I have something else going on in my stomach. He said if nodes show on the MRI then I’ll be called in sooner.
I have a daughter who’s 7 and a son 11 months. The only time I got upset today was answering my daughters questions she was worried she could catch it like a cold.
Are you having chemo first. My consultant today spoke of lumpectomy then radio therapy and chemo. But everything is a kind of wait and see first until they know what they are dealing with fully.
It’s just so surreal at the moment. I thought Id go to pieces but I’ve been surprisingly calm and determined to tackle this head on.
Thanks for all your replies x x
I’ll have a look thank you x x
I can’t believe this is happening to me. have just been diagnosed with grade 3 ductal ca, it is huge and they are worried that it has spread. I too have to have more biopsies of lymph glands. MRI and Ct scans. My husband left me earlier this year after nearly 30 years together and I have a 12 year old son. I’m so frightened for him and the future, so much to think about. I fell like the rug has been pulled out from under me.
Hi Daffodilli, I am sorry to read that you are going through such a worrying time at the moment
In addition to the support you will soon have here please feel free to call our helpliners to talk things through, they are on hand with practical and emotional support for you on 0808 800 6000 and lines are open today 9-5 and tomorrow 10-2 (weekdays 9-5 Sat 10-2)
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Take care
Lucy BCC
To top it all off I’ve just been sacked from my job!
So sorry you are going through this as well daffodil x x
Hi Dmcf
I am sorry you are having such a rough time at the moment, our helpliners can offer a listening ear and have further practical and emotional support for you at the end of a phone so please feel free to call. Lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 10-2 on 0808 800 6000
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi Dmcf
Thanks but it sounds like you are having a terrible time. I hope you have good support around you look to your family and friends as much as possible. I don’t know about you but one moment I’m very focused then the next I can’t remember my own phone number. It is one step at a time and don’t look to far ahead not that I’m finding that easy. I have to have chemotherapy first and have my appointment on Tuesday I’m a nurse and finding it very scarey. Hang in there.
Hi Brewster and Daffodil.
Really sorry to hear your news. And Dcmf, really sorry to hear about the job, that really something you could have done without, b*stards!
Once you have a full plan of your treatments you will feel a bit better and feel like you are back in control (a bit!).
I too am having chemo first and had my first one on Wednesday. And at the moment I’m feeling fine, no side effects at all. Tbh though I am finding that a bit weird! I’m sure I should be feeling a little bit icky or no appetite or something!
So I know it’s only early days but at the moment I’m feeling ok and now I know I’ve started to kill this thing, I’m starting to feel mug better! Xx
I know, it’s very strange. I’ve got to take my 3yr old to a party this morning and thought I would be feeling rubbish today…but nope still nothing. I’m sure it’ll hit me like a ton of bricks at some point…but until then everything seems ‘normal’.
I’m on FEC-T chemotherapy, which seems to be quite common around here! Don’t know too much about it tbh, just known I’ve got to have it so kept it at that! A little part of me is thinking ‘ignorance is bliss’ at the moment.
I really hope you do ok when you go on the 7th, just think positively, that it’s what’s got to happen to beat this!
But the waiting is definitely the hardest bit, I was a nightmare waiting for results and waiting for chemo to start. Once everything was in place I was able to breathe a bit better and get some sleep!
Xxx
The waiting is terrible I have more biopsies of lymph nodes MiRI and CT scan to go I’m terrified that it has spread. Facing my son is hard I just want to start the treatment.
So chemo on Monday now trying to sort out friends to stay with me on the night of the chemo. I do not want my son to have to be my carer. Having to look at lists of emergency contacts in case I become unwell. Doing this as a single mum is hard thank goodness for friends.
Good luck on Monday Daffodil. I hope the side effects aren’t horrible to you. Fortunately I’ve had no side effects from my first one, fingers crossed you are the same. I really didn’t want to see my sons being ill. And Definitely lean on your friends, that’s exactly what they are there for! Xx
Glad to hear you still have no side effects. Keep us updated. I have Breast mri and abdo ct tomorrow. Consultant next Wednesday x x
Good luck tomorrow Dmcf, and hope you don’t have to wait too long for the results. And hope your meeting goes well on Wednesday with the consultant and you get a treatment plan sorted. You will feel a lot better when you have it in place.
Brewster it sucks you’re still waiting as it’s the hardest part of all this. Do you know when you’re going to get the results? Must be hard not knowing which treatment you’ll be getting first. I definitely feel fortunate that within a week I was diagnosed, had ct/bone scans, node biopsies and had my 1st chemo booked for the following week!
Keep us all posted xxx
You are very fortunate to have a supportive work. I got diagnosed and then got the sack. Still everything happens for a reason. Or so I’ve been told xx