Just feel lucky that there are people out there that understand, because after the initial diagnosis, you then feel a loneliness that noone else can understand. I have had 2 lumpectomys that didnt work, and am now on countdown to mastectomy, and tummy tuck, which some people have actually said they are jealous of!!!
I’m hearing you!
When I told people that I was having a MX and had chosen LD Flap because I wanted to wake up with two fairly matching boobs that looked like they should at my ago (47) rather than going for implant which would look unnatural and would also mean a reduction and uplift on my good side, I got lots of comments about it being a great chance to get that ‘perfect pair of boobs’ that every girl dreams of. Well meaning? Perhaps. Insensitive? Very! Actually, ‘perfect boobs’ haven’t had cancer in them! ‘Perfect boobs’ are natural and healthy and whole!
I find myself putting on an act for the world that I’m fine and I’m coping… and then hiding myself away periodically for a cry and emotional meltdown. Then I usually come on here, read a few posts and know I’m not alone. X
I like you had 2failed lumpectomies so had diep last September.it was the best decision I made my new boob feels and looks natural.I’m awaiting uplift and nipple transfer and a little reduction from my fab female surgeon at wythenshawe.I’ve just come back from holiday and I wore a bikini for the first time.as I have a flat tummy and no stretch marks.people amazed me when commenting I’m so jealous ,when do they not realise given a choice we would rather have 2 healthy breasts baggy baby bellies ,spare tyres and stretch marks and not to have had a cancer diagnosis at all.good luck with your diep .tip -------- keep getting up and down and walking a few steps several times a day ,it hurts like hell getting up and down but only for a couple of seconds and once your straight walk a few steps .this helped me immensely I did it at least 15 times a day.any questions just ask.
Thanks for your replies, sounds like very brave inspiring women to me and I hope to be the same.
I am now post op and am looking back on your kind replies and just wishing you all the best and hope that the mental scars as well as the physical have faded as mine are slowly doing (4weeks on). Stay strong you amazing people