Hi all. I have been sober for 5 years thanks to a twelve step programme. However being newly diagnosed with invasive cancer has really tested my sobriety of late. I just want something to change the way I feel and am not proud of myself for that but it’s the way it is. I’m sticking close to meetings, practising my gratitude, being the best Mum i can be (thank god my son has never seen me drunk … But i know that it is in the day) but right now its tough. If there are any other ladies out there who can identify it would be good to hear from you.
Strength and Hope
Hello
I was diagnosed the week before my 9th birthday in July and yes it has been challenging, at first I was thinking what is the point of not drinking, but thankfully that didnt last long. I have been careful to stay close to meetings, when I can, my sponsor and the fellowship that I have built up over the last 9 years.
Some days are better than others and I have to remember that if I get to bed without a drink it has been a good day, I am really grateful for the good days and have been amazed by the number of people I have found in my local meetings who have had breast cancer.
Anne
xx
Hi,
I do not have the same experience of alcoholism but just wanted to add support to you both. I think that having cancer is dreadfully hard for us all and I have the greatest respect and admiration for you both for continuing to stay away from alcohol.
I hope you will find support and strength and hope from this site too. With every good wish to you both xx
Hi Billyw
As well as the support you are receiving here if you need to talk things through with someone please don’t hesitate to give the BCC helpline a call. Here you can share your feelings and concerns with a trained member of staff who will offer you a listening ear as well as emotional support and practical information. The number to call is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9 to 5pm and Sunday 9 to 2pm.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
Anne, Julie and Sam. Thank you for your lovely responses. It’s so comforting reading your experience. I just returned from a fellowship meeting where I met a lady trying to stay sober after losing her child to illness. I know there isn’t a hierarchy on pain but that really reminded me to stay grateful. As Amne says if I go to bed without a drink I’m winning. We’re all winners xx
Billy, Anne,
I too have no experience of this, but like the other Julie am full of admiration for you both. I found your last post inspiring Billy, and despite this awful disease it is wonderful to be able to look around and still feel grateful.
All my best wishes,
Julie x
Thank you Julie
I’ll share a saying someone dear to me gave me which is ‘I am like a shark, I keep swimming forward cause if I stop, I sink’.
Swim on my fellow sharks, swim on…
Love & strength xx
Billy,
I loved that quote. I have had a really horrible few days with complete meltdown today but I will swim on - thankyou! Keep winning too!
Julie x