What a week!
Last Thursday night my brother turned up at mine as a surprise. He has been travelling for months and was in Laos.
I knew he would come, I just knew. He travelled all that way in a complex way with many difficulties to give me a hug.
My dad did not text me, and only did when my brother turned up at my parent’s house on the Friday. I had let my mum know if my diagnosis as soon as I got back from the hospital the previous Thursday. They are together and I had asked her to let dad know.
I messaged him and my mum to say too little too late, and that I needed to focus on myself. I needed a break from them.
roll on Sunday night into Monday morning and my brother still at theirs phoning to tell me my dad was having a heart attack and being taken to hospital. My parents live about 40 minutes away. So my husband and I ( the husband that had leukaemia treatment earlier this year) and has issues due to it. Drove to my mums, took her to hospital and stayed there the rest of the night.
Well I sent husband home to rest and be home to tell our daughter who is 26 when she woke up.
Dad has had a stent put in as soon as he could when he got to the hospital and I saw him afterwards that night and visited him today. He will recover and do well by the sounds of it.
emotional chaos for me, but I had to do what felt right for me.
Anyway always looking for the positives. I decided on my visit today I would go to Maggies. I didn’t have the time or energy when my husband was having his treatment as I spent his appointments with him.
it felt so good. My brother came with me, for moral support. I feel like I’ve found a space I can use and go to - to have time to breathe. I was concerned it would be miserable, with patients just being negative. It so wasn’t we shared our stories and found ways to help each other with comments, experiences.
If you can find out if there is one near you and if you can do go or contact them. I hope if you do you find it as positive and helpful as I did. We have to find the things that we can do for ourselves, for me this was one of them.
It really helped me when I went to visit my dad. im still going to take my space back, but I know he has plenty of local support.
i am so thankful for my brother who knew I needed him and came.
Thanks for reading this far.
