My sister and i share the ‘distinction’ of being diagnosed with invasive lobular cancer 12 months apart -as she was going back to work I was sitting in the hosp waiting to see the consultant. she had private health insurance, i don’t.
the differences and similarities so far - my sis was seen by a consultant 8 days afer consultng GP, i was seen on day 13. hers was evident on mammogram. Mine was not on mammogram or ultrasound but confirmed by core biopsy. All my tests were done on the same day and i had the results 2 days later, confirming cancer. Apparently i have dense breast tissue (LOL I still find that funny) so i then had an MRI. That took 2 weeks.
we were both given the same treatment path - mastectomy - both rightsided, chemo and radio.
She had a private bedroom/bathroom post op. i shared a room with 4 other women (they were gynae and tethered by catheters) so effectively the bathroom was mine. we both left hospital after 2 nights.
my niece has seen her mother’s wound scar and mine. notwithstanding all the stuff about how we heal differently… my niece says wow auntie J… that’s like just a line - no lumpy stuff like mum has. My sis has dog ears. hmmm ok…luck of the draw on surgeon skills.
i have had access to breast care nurses and she has not. they are invaluable.
despite paying she had a ‘grim’ oncologist who gave her life chances and made her feel they were not good… i took pot luck and got prof grieve who tells me his role is to make sure i die of old age.
She has had to buy everything from prosthesis to wig with no help. I have had support and help and subsidised stuff.
She had lovely nurses during chemo and routinely had bone marrow booster drugs. i have lovely nurses - no boosting drugs but i am on a trial so i will be doing different drugs from her soon. Even with her booster drugs i am (so far) doing better than she did in terms of bloods and no delays. this may be me doing cell thing better naturally but i think it may also be psychological in terms of support?
Nobody from the hosp ever rang her post op/treatments. I had 3 calls in 12 days post op from breast care nurse and the oncology breast care nurse rings me roundabout day 10 post chemo.
i may be lucky in where i live but i think i am receiving a better service than my sis and she saved a whole 10 days overall.
the main difference where my sister does better than me is that she does have a husband who loves her. i don’t. She is a fortunate woman.
Take care
j
my sis always just walked in and saw whoever/had treatment, i have had to wait. i always expected to wait and take a book