Lovely people at council and job centre!

Hi all and sorry any of us have to be here. However I have just had one of those days that restores your faith in humanity and wanted to share! My sick pay ended in Nov and I was told I should be entitled to ESA and housing & council tax benefit. I have been putting off sorting out the claims as paperwork, forms etc terrify me (I know I need to get over this!) and I just wasn’t feeling up to it. Also have read numerous horror stories about claiming and just couldn’t face it.

However for whatever reason I decided today would be the day. I went to the council and saw a really lovely woman who completely put me at ease, spoke to me in a private room and helped me through everything and sorted it all out then and there. And then I phoned the jobcentre about ESA and spoke to a really lovely man. He was genuinely sympathetic when he realised it was BC and was really helpful (e.g. I couldn’t remember my work phone number off hand and went to go and look it up, and he said not to bother myself and looked it up on the internet himself). He too completely put me at ease and was so kind.

I was totally psyched up for both experiences being horrible and stressful and now I actually want to cry with relief at a) having got them out of the way and b) how nice both people were. So I just wanted to say that if you are putting off doing something like I was, how much better you will feel once you have done it. And I know some people have had awful experiences but have hope that there are some nice people who work for these organisations! Good luck and best wishes to everyone going through this.

Hi Sal

Like you I hate doing forms, and find them very stressful. Silly really, we’re grown-ups and should be able to breeze through them, but for some of us it just doesn’t happen.

You may find that even after speaking to some very helpful people on the phone you get forms through the post as follow-ups that mean NOTHING to you. So you might want to find out if your treatment centre has something like a Maggies centre or Macmillan to help you with the paperwork side of things. I confess, I’m at that second stage of the paperwork and I just hate it so much that I’ve even put off getting further help that I really could do with to make sure I don’t get shafted.

So before you need to, find out whether there’s somewhere near to you that can help with paperwork mountains before you actually need them. That in itself will give you the extra confidence you’ll probably welcome to deal with FORMS. Ugh.

ChoccieMuffin thank you so much for your kind reply and the warning, I was a bit hazy as to what is going to happen next! There is a really wonderful cancer care centre at my hospital and I know they have people there who do financial stuff, so you are right I definitely should ask for some help. Hope you are able to get some help too.

Bloody forms and paperwork and phonecalls…ugh indeed! I am trying to make it a (slightly belated) new year’s resolution to get better at this sort of stuff. It’s awful that this is such a stress on top of treatment and everything else, but best wishes to everyone in this boat xx love Sal xx