I have started this new thread for new user Janis
Jo, Facilitator
Please help i have found a small lump in my right breast i am 46 years old.From what i have read on the web cysts are soft and mine is hard.I have an appointment on friday but i can’t stop crying and fearing i’m going to die .The lump is on the surface to the right of my nipple it feels small.I’m paralized with fear.
Hi Janis,
I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling. You are bound to be scared stiff. There are no hard and fast rules about the texture of lumps etc - just that you need to get it checked out. Is Friday’s appt with your GP or a clinic? If it’s your GP then why not get an emergeny appt tomorrow so you don’t have to wait any more than necessary? It really is torture waiting to find out news.
What about support for you - do you have a partner, sister or friend who will take your worries seriously and help you through the waiting? I know I almost felt superstitious about telling anyone, in case it made a difference! But you need help to get through the waiting so even telling one person would help.
I really hope it turns out to be nothing serious,
let us know how you get on
big hug
Jacquie x
Janis,
The waiting and not knowing really is the worst time.Its so easy to think the worst and try and guess the outcome but your lump is what it is and worrying won’t change that.I can’t unfortunately tell you that everything will be OK(but remember there is a good chance its not breast cancer),but I can tell you that we will be here for you whatever the results.
I was diagnosed in July ,had surgery and now just on a drug called Tamoxifen.My prognosis is very good so all breast cancer is not a death sentence.
I have been where you are now and its scary but once you know what you are dealing with ,you will be able to handle it even if its not good news.
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Take care and try not to panic,
Love
Dot
x
Hi jacquie and dot Yes my appointment is with the breast clinic I begged my gp yesterday to tell me if he thought it was cancer but he said 9 out of 10 turn out fine but it needs checking. I have a great husband who has said be positive but worse case senario is we’ll beat it.I have no family history of it .I also am very lucky to have a great bunch of workmates and friends whom a few have been at this stage and it turned out ok so god willing i’ll be one of them.Does everyone with bc have to have chemo as this is my biggest fear?
Hi Janis, welcome to the BCC forums,
You might find it helpful to read the BCC booklet about being referred to a breast clinic. It can be found by following the link below:-
breastcancercare.org.uk//docs/referral_redesign__final_14_feb_08_0.pdf
Please do call the helpline if you feel it would help to talk your concerns through with someone in confidence, the line is open Mon-Fri 9am-5pm and Sat 9am-2pm on 0808 800 6000.
Best wishes
Lucy
Hi Janis,
Good luck for Friday,I will have my fingers crossed for you!
I haven’t needed chemo and neither have many others on here.So don’t worry too much about that.
Get someone to go with you on Friday as your head will be all over the place,
Let us know how you get on,
Love
Dot
x
Slept ok down to the sleepers off the doctor just want it sorting this waiting game is torture I feel a bad diagnosis can’t be as bad as this feeling of no control.
Hi Janis
You are so right - it is the waiting and the out of control feeling which is unbearable. I have been through cancer twice - once with my son when he was 13 months and then myself recently with breast cancer. The not knowing is the worst ever. Your mind jumps to the most horrible, unrealistic conclusions. Once you have a firm diagnosis, you then can then move forward in your mind with a treatment plan etc. Before then, you are just stuck in this horrible place with the “what ifs”? Realistically, even if you have cancer (and it is statiscally more likely to be a harmless lump) it is very likely to be early and treatable. Not the most wonderful thing to have, but you will cope, just like we all do on here and to be honest, it is nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be when I was in your situation.
Good luck
Cathy
Cathy you are so right and i know I will deal with it just like all you wonderful ladies have. I am so glad i.v found this web site. God bless you all i’m not religious but i’v talked to him upstairs all week just hope he’s listening.xxxxx
Hi Janis,
please dont get worked up (hard I know) until you know what you are dealing with. We are all here to support you so you are not alone and we will answer any questions no matter how small or silly they may seem. We have all been where you are at right now and have all come through the not knowing, the waiting, the I am going insane and the I am going to die phase so you are quite normal!! I had a small lump about the size of a marble which was the most aggressive type of breast cancer so had to have a mastectomy and chemo but hey ho if having those things have kept me alive and well then it was all worth it. I am just going through reconstruction and my new boob is better than the old saggy one - its bigger and more pert so I am happy! and so is the husband lol!! It is not a death sentence these days and I dont really feel like I have had cancer as I have breezed through the treatments so far.
Good luck - I will be thinking of you and please let us know how you get on.
Take care and keep posting
Love Clarabelle x
Thanks again for all your comments the consultants secratary has just rang and changed my appointment to 2 o’clock my heart sank as i thought she was cancelling so this time tomorrow i will be there.The anxiety today has been almost unbearable i’m so mad at myself for reacting like this epesially when i read what some of you have been through.I just wish i could stop being so selfish and grow up.
Oh Janis pleeease! Selfish?! what are you talking about. Nothing could be more traumatic than what you are going through. I admit that coming on this site does show you that there is always someone worse off than you, but we are all in a pretty extreme situation compared to the general population. Just go easy on yourself.
This time tomorrow it will be over and you should have some kind of answers, even if they are still not certain about the detail.
I will say a prayer for you tomorrow
love Jacquie
Hi went to see the consultant today she examined me and said she could not feel any irregularitys and drew some fluid off and it was a cyst. She said to keep my appointment for tuesday at the breast clinic but only as a precaution and as the appointment is already booked so I might as well go and have a mammogram and ultrasound done but my lump has gone. Never have i felt so relieved thank you all so much for helping me and I prey for you all too keep well xxxxxxx
Great news Janis,you can relax now!
Take care,
Dot
x
Janis that’s brilliant - I’m so pleased. You must have such a feeling of relief.
Don’t be surprised if your emotions are a bit odd for a while - you’ve had a terrible shock.
All the very best
love Jacquie x
Thanks jacquie and Dot I have just got back from mammogram and scan seen consultant and she confirmed nothing sinister going on she said i had quite a few cysts but unable to feel them myself she just said it’s the joys of approaching the menopause and advised evening primrose and cod liver oil tablets she said if anymore flare up i would get referred back but she discharged me and said if they reoccur it’s quite commen.I cannot express how i would have dealt with this without this web site because i’m so lucky with family and friends but i felt all alone until i came on here you are all amazing xxxx
Janisb,
It must be a great relief to have it all confirmed,take care,
Love
Dot
xx