i had lost both breasts 2010 …then i had cancer of the vulva…
I am constantly pushing my husband to give me a hand with around the house i cant forgive him after having the first operation came home with the drains in both sides he did a little bit as soon they got removed he sat back as usual left the work up to me … this include my autistic son trying to kill himself all the time … he didnt like put his arms round me i have spoken so many times explaining how i am feeling he says circumstances.i almost feel like given up im tired all the time doctors says it the operations i have endured the cancer vulva was a shock … i am waiting for reconstruction hoping it will give me confidence again but its not going to cure my relationship with my husband can i get counselling i dont know what to do with all this feelings inside me help!!!
hi,
so sorry you are having a bad time, not only all the different cancers but husband problems too—double whammy.
There have been several threads over the past few days about unsuportive partners, on is called grr men towards the end of that post some women are open about the very real problems they are having and the other one is anyones partner reacting like this, I will bump them both up so you can see them
Shazzey, yes, you should be able to get counselling. If your cancer centre doesn’t have a support centre attached to it, ask your breast care nurse where you can get it, or speak to your GP who should be able to find some for you and do you a referral.
Life’s a bitch sometimes, and throws more and more rubbish at us when we’re just about keeping our heads above water with the rubbish we’re already dealing with. I can’t imagine having another kind of cancer on top of this one, my heart goes out to you.
Hugs, and do take a look at the threads OAL is bumping, you might meet some kindred spirits who are also going through tough relationship troubles.
Hugs,
CM
x
hi Shazzey,
do you know what? he isnt going to suddenly change you know, if that is how he has always been, chances are that is how he will always be,
I might have got it wrong, but I am only telling you from my own experience,
some men just dont seem to get it,
My motto is “expect nothing, get something and its a bonus”!!! lol,
I know how you are feeling, I would literally fall into bed I would be so tired, but now I have started to take a different attitude and dont rush round, half the time I carnt,
you could try talking to him, and telling him how you feel, again in my experience thats called moaning,
so I have never had much luck there either
you will sort it out, but in the meantime just concentrate on yourself and do whatever you have to to get through this c**
all the best, keep us posted Liz xxx