Just found out on Friday that I have breast cancer - not sure about anything else. Feel very removed from everything…We just had our first Christmas without my Mum; who died from secondary cancer in October…she had a mastectomy two years ago this month!
I’m 41 and come from Glasgow, but live in the Netherlands…
Have my first meeting with the surgeon this afternoon…
Mairi
I’m 39 and was diagnosed with BC on 30/12. It was a dilemma at first what was going to happen as I was showing as being pregnant. A miscarriage was confirmed on 31/12.
My CT Scan showed clear although still waiting for the results of everything else. Have an appointment with the surgeon in two days time when he is going to talk options. I think that I want to get the surgery out of the way as that’s the bit which is frightening me most of all. I have a little boy who is nearly 18 months old and am scared stiff of going into hospital and leaving him and even more scared of how the recovery is going to be and how useful I will be to him.
I’m frightened of surgery but even more frightened of not seeing my georgous little boy grow up. I feel totally absorbed by this whole thing cos I just can’t switch my head off. It’s wierd how you can be sat in a room with people but feel like you’re in your own bubble.
just thought I would pop on and say I attended the Bham YWF in October and it was really valuable. Great to meet younger ladies in the same boat and even more uplifting to meet ladies who were 2 and 3 years the other side looking so well. Would highly recommend attending!
Hiya,
I was diagnosed with IDC grade 1 on 1st Dec 09 aged 29. I had an MRI to check it wasn’t in the right breast too, of which it wasn’t, but there were 8 lesions found in the left breast.
I will find out hopefully tomorrow when my surgery date will be. I have opted for a bilateral mastectomy and a DIEP immediate reconstruction and Node clearance. Chemo to follow and hormone treatment.
I think I am more nervous about the pathology results as the consultant seems to think that it is more than likely not a grade 1 but we will soon see!
Take care everyone.
Paula xxxxxxxx
Hi,
Hillingdon1966 I’m sorry you find your self here too. I was diagnosed with BC on 28th Oct and found out on the 29th i was pregnant. Had to teriminate to get treatment. Gutted nut it was the right decision however hard, because like you i have and 18mth old and a 4 year old. And my main priority was seeing them grow up. I found it really hard to deal with that too. I just classed it as part of the treatment easier that way.
It’s terrifing, but it is doable.
Take care. Debs
I have posted this for new user Sian
Jo, Facilitator
Hi Debs, Everyone
I’m new to this website…I was diagnosed on 24th dec 2004 6 weeks after finding out i was pregnant. had a horrible xmas new year…In the jan I lost the baby, and then went in for a mastectomy. I had chemo from may then onto tamoxifen… Jan 2008 I had reconstruction (no implant)
5 years on I’m fighting fit (well I hope I am)
But myself and my partner now want to try for a baby!!! My local GP is not very helpful and just says NO i shouldn’t do it for my health etc.
Does anyone have any advice I live in Cornwall and can’t seem to get good imformation. My local hospital is not very good and the ladies in the cancer unit where I go for check ups are not very nice at all
Please help if you can
Wishing eveyone good luck
Sian xx
Sian i found my lump in pregnancy and it was confirmed as cancer after my daughter was born. One oncologist said to never have any more children as the pregnancy would “feed the cancer” ( what cancer after all thattreatment?!) And another said there was absolutely no research to support pregnancy triggering cancer. I am left in limbo really as who to believe?! Hope someone comes on with good advice for you.
S
Hi Sian
I think you’ll find that it is down to type of cancer when talking about the pregnancy ‘feeding’ it. I’m Lauren, 26 yrs old and was diagnosed in 2008 when my youngest was 11 months old. I have had a mastectomy, chemo, radio, reconstructive surgery etc…
My cancer was oestrogen receptive, and therefore fed off of the oestrogen in my body…So, having come off the pill, fell pregnant, had a baby, breastfed etc there was plenty of it to feed from!! In my case i think this triggered it…I think you should contact your oncologist and arrange a consultation to discuss this issue… Or visit your GP again, and insist on being referred to someone who can help…My oncologist has said to me that i shouldn’t make any rash decisions with regards to having my lady bits removed incase i decide to have more kiddies, so i guess after taking tamoxifen etc for 5yrs i don’t see why you shouldn’t go for it. I’ll speak with my friend Gemma and see if she can enlighten you anymore as she is currently in the same situation as you.
hope this helped a little
Lauren xx
Hi Sian
BCC have published some information about fertility after breast cancer which may be helpful for you to read, you can do so by clicking on this link:
breastcancercare.org.uk/upload/pdf/BCC28_fertility_issues_09_web_pdf.pdf
Please also call our helpline for further support and information on 0808 800 6000, the line is open 9-5 on weekdays and 9-2 on Saturdays. Our team of trained helpliners and specialist nurses are here to support you so please call if you feel it will help.
Take care
Lucy
Hi,
I was diagnosed in June 2004 and in May this year, I stop taking tamoxifen after 5 years. My husband and I want to try for a baby but would like reassurance that pregnancy won’t increase the risk of the cancer recurring. My cancer was stage 2, sentinel node negative, highly positive with oestrogen.
Can someone advise us?
many thanks veggiehobbes