hi i’m not sure why im here really except i have no one else to share my worries with but my guess is you people on here will know where i’m coming from
my mother was treated for breast cancer 9 years ago which has now returned in a couple of bones in her shoulder and neck the doctors seem very positive that they can contain it.after radio treatment she was discharged from hospital .straight away i could tell there was a problem i put it down to the medication she was on she seemed fine and very positive but over the last couple of days she has started to have paranoid out bursts that my father is trying to harm her by not letting her have her medication and that there are cameras around the house amongst other things bizzare to say the least. today we called the doctor out who checked her over blood pressure chest exam etc the doctor says pysically she is fine but called a ambulance to take her to hospital now the hospital have kept her in saying she has had some kind of breakdown .i havent been told much so i’m here wondering if this stress related or could it be her medication ?i’m very scared not of the possibility of losing her to cancer more so losing the person she was mentally obviously cancer is very stressful she coped really well the first time this time there has been no tears or mention of the dreaded word cancer.could the trauma of diagnosis course a mental breakdown ?
much regards and respect .
Hello John
Welcome to the forums, this is a very worrying time for you. You have come to the right place for support from our experienced users who I’m sure will be along to support you soon.
In the meantime maybe you would like to talk things through with a member of our helpline staff who are there to offer emotional support as well as practical information. Lines re-open in the morning at 9.00, the free phone number is 0808 800 600 and the opening times are Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 9.00 to 2.00.
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HELLO JOHN maybe your mum is realy letting of steam she might be so angry with life to get cancer once is soul destoying to get it twice i cant imagine she maybe asking herself why her. your mum may not be able to cope with the possibility of treatment again you never mentioned how old your mum was it maybe she feels shes not able to do it all again these are all if and buts Just listenten to whats shes saying and how she feels there might be some answers there.
I think it sounds like dementia. This kind of behaviour happened to a good friend’s mother. The very irrational and paraniod behaviour it quite typical of someone who is going through one of the stages of dementia.
I hope for your sake this is not the case, but it is something worth considering.
hello John,
So sorry to hear about your Mum. You don’t say what medication she is on but I know that some can cause imbalances in things like calcium etc in the bloodstream which can lead to confusion etc. This can normally be picked up in blood tests and treated intraveously.Indded it could also be stress and shock. At least if your Mum is in hospital they can do assessments and tests and hopefully will find the cause of her behaviour and begin to treat it,I hope all goes well.
Best wishes Julie
Posted on behalf of john:
thank you i appreciate the offer regards.
Posted on behalf of John in response to Gretchen:
dementia ? thanks for your honesty even though if possible it made me feel worse i never gave dementia a thought there is no family history of this… my mother has never shown any signs of mental illness only in the last week or so her behaviour has been a worry… but you are correct to say keep it in mind its a possibility thanks for taking the time to reply
Posted on John’s behalf in reply to elaine-r:
hi my mother is 69 thanks for the reply
Hi John
What an awful worrying time you are having. I’m so sorry that you are having all this trauma.
Just to say that a similar thing happened to my mother not that she had cancer, but another condition. It was the medication she was given and her decline happened very suddenly. She was very paranoid and believed that everyone was trying to harm her, she couldn’t remember anything at all.
She recovered, it took a while but she was able to look after herself and live on her own again and enjoy life with her friends.
I hope you are able to get some information from her medical team as to why this has happened and the reason.
Very best wishes to you and your family
Jan
Hi John,
sounds like medication to me. When I was taking the first lot of anti sickness tablet I became psychotic within a few hours. I realised what it was and refused to take any more but spend an horrendous night on my own.
I hope the hospital can reassess your mum and sort out the problems.
It could also be de hydration and that can cause dementia like symptoms.
Shock can play havoc with our emotional state of mind, but I hope that your mum is given a good mot and they can give both your mum and you all the answers you’re looking for.
Take care
Chris
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Dementia does not come on suddenly like this. Something that does present like Dementia though is a urine infection. I would hope that the hospital check your mum out for this but if I were you I would def. be asking them whether or not they have. Fortunately, if it an infection, a course of antibiotics will soon see her right.
hi i would like to give a big thanks to the people who took the time and effort to reply to my original post
after a series of tests and scans the hospital finally got to the bottom of the problem which turned out to be a wrong prescription of oramorph which turned out to be too strong and my mother had been taking too much unaware of the danger i’m not angry with the hospital more so relieved i do find it incredible at such error can be made and that they were still giving it to her while she was hospitalised but i guess these things happen they have assured me after a couple of days it will be out of her system and she will be back to her old self and discharged her today
i feel like we have won the lottery
much regards…
Hi John,
What a relieve, I’m so please for you and your mum.
Take good care,
Love
Chris
xx
Its better than the lottery you cant buy health
Very pleased for you and your mum John.
Best wishes, take care xx
Hi John,
That’s great news! I’m sorry a mistake caused you and your Mum such a horrible time but I’m very glad they discovered that it was meds and things can now get better.
Best wishes to you both, Julie
Excellent news, John. Thanks for letting us know.
Eliza xx
I know this comment is after the event but just so glad that there was an explanation for your mums state of mind as my mum had severe clinical depression for a year before she died and it was so traumatic for all of us. A Happy new year to you and Mum.Hope all is well.
Ruthine 58