Hi Kelly
Just wanted to wish you well for tomorrow for your Dads funeral and hope that everything goes as well as it can do. Will be thinking of you. Not much more I can say really, except keep smiling as much as you can, and remember to celebrate your Dads life and your special close bond, even though it will be very hard not to be too sad.
Take care of yourself and catch up with you soon
Love
Dawn
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Hi Dawn
Not sure about your e-mail address, would love to try, when you say mail underscore (after that is OK) what do you mean? Is it your screen name as appears here? Sorry, bit thicko at present.
Do you mind me asking you something really personal, don’t answer if you don’t want to, how did you find you had BC, did you feel anything, how did they find it in your liver too? I seem to remember you saying ages ago that you had no symptoms - what good fortune they found it without symptoms, your prognosis is obviously very good, well done. Not up on chemo or the different types, is taxotere bad, is it worse than the other chemo treatments you have had. I think you are so incredibly brave, courageous and such a nice person. I would feel privileged to be able to exchange e-mails.
Anyway, big day tomorrow, trying to keep everyone in good spirits, family getting down and am trying to turn it around as a celebration of Dad’s life, to be thankful for what we had and to remember him with all the love that we feel. I am proud that he was my Dad. Probably will be a complete and utter wreck tomorrow.
Will talk to you soon. Keep safe Dawn and I send you my love
K
Hi Dawn
Will try a couple of things over the weekend re your e-mail but if not will go to BCpals and see what I can do. I have copied and pasted the following which I have sent to a couple of friends re Dad’s funeral so hope it works OK. Will speak to you soon.
Love K
Dad’s funeral was really nice. The weather was beautiful, the service was lovely, my brother’s (Ray) speech was funny in all the right places and portrayed Dad down to a tee. As we were walking into the Church, Ray walked with my Mum behind the coffin, then me and my Uncle Robert etc etc. As the Undertakers were carrying my Dad into the actual Church, they stopped for a second as there was a step, my brother turned around to say something to me at that precise moment and ended up walking straight into the back of the coffin. Dad would have really laughed at that, it made us laugh too. My poem cheered everyone and the Reverend said after the contribution from us both he would have to be careful as he could soon find himself out of a job! We were so surprised at how many people went to the Church. Dad loved anything to do with WW2 and halfway through the service and very coincidentally, two spitfires flew over, it couldn’t have happened at a more appropriate moment. It was like his own personal salute. The actual burial was not as bad as I thought it was going to be. It was rather quick, the Reverend said a few words, the Undertaker threw earth on the coffin as it was lowered and then myself and other family members laid our roses on the top as it came to rest. We said a short prayer and then mingled for a while around the grave. It was so hot, the sun was shining and Dad would have loved every minute of it. I don’t know why but I enjoyed every minute of the day, it wasn’t sad at all, Dad’s at rest and out of pain, he was 75, had a good life and achieved a lot. Yes, it was horrible the way he died, but he fought with courage and without complaint and I am very proud of him. It was a good day with happy memories. We had the wake back at Mum’s, the food and drink was lovely and we all sat out in the garden around Dad’s pond reminiscing and telling funny stories. Just in our t-shirts, no cardigans or jackets needed.
Having said all that, coming home on the train last night, I totally wilted. Am absolutely exhausted now so going to have a quiet weekend, Champagne and Chinese tonight, try to get my energy back and start next week with happy memories and hopefully a feeling of peace. What a stressful couple of months this has all been.
Hi Kelly
Just read your message, and made me tingle all over about your Dads funeral. Although very funny about your brother and probably helped to break the atmosphere a little if you know what I mean. It sounded lovely though (if that is the right way to say it) and the bit about the spitfires was great too … I am so glad that you got through it all and celebrated your dads life, although am sure the next few days are probably quite hard now and maybe more emotional than you would think. Remember when my Mum died, although did cry badly when her coffin was taken (she was cremated) but afterwards we celebrated, but the days after were quite hard, although I didn’t have time to dwell too much as Sophie was only 8 months old then. I am sure your son and OH will help take your mind off things as well.
Keep smiling for your Dad, and remember that no matter what, he will always be in your heart and memories and you will always remember the good times.
Hope you manage to sort out the email address, but if not, do try bccpals, then can give it to you properly.
Hope your weekend goes well and you enjoy your champers and chinese and make sure you take some time out for you and rest. Well done you for getting through this, and hope your week is good.
Lots of Love
Dawn
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Hi K,
Just wantedto say Im so glad it went well, sorry I havent really posted lately.
I cant believe the spitfires flew over - how wonderful! Your dad wil have loved that!
Anyhow, you take it easy and enjoy your weekend.
Love Lynne.x