Message for the Gobby Gang
Message for the Gobby Gang What an inspiration reading your postings. I have just completed my dissertation on Breast Cancer and am absolutely astounded at your wonderful attitudes.
Moira, you are certainly one very special lady, and I can only wish you well and send you lots of love.
Lynne, life appears to send you blow after blow, and somehow your strength shines through.
There are so many of you and I want to wish you the best. I cannot begin to tell you the range of emotions I experienced with each one of you. Everything said resonated so well with me. Looking at all the posts, and reading through each person’s personal journey brought me to tears and laughter. I truly am so proud to be a women when I read through your brave battle with breast cancer. You have displayed the most remarkable courage in the face of adversity and each one of you shines through.
Your fears, anger and resentment pales againt the most unbelievable compassion and love for one another. Short of sounding an absolute and total sop, you women have pointed out to me how important the little things in life are. I have read some of your comments to my husband, who wept with me, and for those who lack the support desperately needed from your partners, my heart breaks.
From what I have gathered, they are acting out their fears in most instances, confronted with the daunting prospect of losing you, which could very well be a new emotion to them and thereby acting out in the most unbelievable manner.
I have lost my mother and grandmother to breast cancer and understand what you are going through - in the smallest of ways, because, as we know, if you haven’t walked the walk, you could never understand fully. However, something touched me tonight in all of your posts and I need to tell you that regardless of what the outcome may be for yourself, please remeber that you have impacted on my life directly and left your footprint.
A salute to all of you brave women. I surround you with love and warm wishes.
For me, please feel free to have an extra glass of wine tonight and remember that there are people out there who really care, even if they don’t know you personally. You truly deserve it.
*Try and notch up more escorted departures from many more pubs in the future and perhaps a certain bus will arrive for a certain person one day - lol*
Hi Bexie
I noticed your heading a couple of days ago and was intrigued – well to be honest at first I thought maybe we had offended you.
Anyway after 3 days of waiting for your post to go live – I emailed the moderator today who indicated a technical hitch – so we only got to read your words today.
Firstly I’m glad I didn’t offend you with my swearing – I’m from Outback Australia where some form of swearing is compulsory – though not particularly ladylike, as my gran would point out.
Secondly – thanks for your kind words – I had no idea other people read our threads - though we have received a couple of posts of late due to Kate’s bad news.
I’m glad you get something positive and inspiring from our natter. We all met at a Younger Women’s Forum run by BCC last October and became pretty close – I think because all of us experience isolation in being a younger woman with bc. Well that and the fact we went down the night before and had a few wines at dinner – which loosened up the conversation.
And there is something in understanding what another person has gone through – especially chemo – but don’t get me started on that topic as I’m likely to start talking about bodily functions again.
I’m sorry you lost your mum and nan to breast cancer – my great grandmother died from ovarian cancer (not that I got to meet her but I know the impact it had on my grandmother) – but other than that I’m the first in my family to go through the cancer caper. Now I certainly have more of an appreciation of how truly rubbish cancer is.
Anyway its getting late – so shall leave it there – I hope you have a great and happy Easter – I’m sure to have some good RB stories for you upon my return of 4 days in the Lakes District with him.
Take care
Cheers
Moira
and another message from me Hi Gobby Gang
I also read your tremendous posts but don’t join in cause I’m far too old.
If you ever read my posts you’ll probably know I’m not much keen on lots of the cliched words used to describe people with cancer so i avoid the ‘think positive, knit your own bravery’ kind of discourse.
But you women are just great. Dina Rabinonich has recently written about the ‘cancer memoir’ market being overcrowded but your threads ought to be out there, published…your insights and take on living with cancer, your wit and wisdom are a breath of fresh air in a land which is so over filled with the trite and superficial.
very best wishes from someone who is nearly a pensioner.
Jane
wow do we have a fan club!!! Hiya Janera recognise you from around and about…
xxsam
Hi
Thanks for your mesages.
I was also intrigued by what this message was for us was but I’ve been away and computerless so unable to read this till yesterday.
I think it takes ‘one to know one’ and I think we have all beome close as Moira pointed out because we are often the only young ones we see in oncology. Although, saying that I’ve recently seen a lot of young faces in my oncology department and know lots of women under 50 with this disease in my area. (is there any link to living near an oil refinery do you think?).
Bexie - I think I will show your comments to my hubby as what you’ve written rings so true about burying heads in sand and not able to cope. Latest project of his is to dismantle the old morris minor and now buy another shell to start again and with the prospect of me going downhill very quickly, it seems a very 'head in the sand ’ thing to do. I was very touched by your comments and hope your dissertation went well. Will it be used for anything in the future?
I have no objections to anything I write being read/used/quoted for the purpose of bc prevention/research/info as long as my name/pseudonom is credited and if a profit is made then it is for a bc charity and not for an individual’s profit. Moira - is that a legal binding statement -do I need to reword that???
I really want to do something positive for other women with bc and if that means that my posts and writings help now and in the future then that will be a good thing.
Thank you to you all for taking the time to reply to our posts.
Kate