metaplastic breast cancer

diagnosed mid-Mat, mastectomy May 25. Then told, "thats it gone, dont worry see you next year! now feeling lost & anxious, just left sort of hanging, HELP PLEASE

 

Dear Merrin

 

I was holding back waiting for someone else to respond but it is three days now since your post so here goes. Perhaps everyone is away on holiday. Feeling that you have been ‘cast adrift’ by the NHS once treatment has finished is not unusual. I also felt “lost” at first, I think we all do. Taking things just one day at a time really is the best way forward.Tense one of your muscles hard, then try to keep it tensed, not just for a few minutes but for ever and ever and ever. You can’t do it can you? At some point you just have to allow that muscle to relax. It is exactly the same with these feelings of anxiety, it is absolutely impossible to live in a permanent state of tension. Get busy because keeping your mind active will stop you dwelling upon all those “what if’s”. Most important of all do things you enjoy. Celebrate life. Plan little treats like having a nice meal out, attend a music festival, exercise (when you feel up to it of course) dance, sing, appreciate nature, go for a walk. It is two years since I was diagnosed and I have just been given the all clear for the second time. Every morning I wake up happy and rejoice in the fact that I am alive, yes even if the weather is foul and it is throwing it down with rain :smileyhappy:. If you do get the ‘wobbles’ just keep posting on the forum because we are all here for you. I am sure some of the others will be along add their replies soon.

Hi Merrin,

I am sorry to hear you are going through this anxious time but I am glad to see that fiestyflora has been along to offer her support. 

In the meantime please do call ourhelpline at 0808 800 6000 who will be able to talk to you about how you are feeling and offer a friendly ear. The opening hours are below.

Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm
Late opening Wednesday 9am-7pm,
Saturday, 9am-1pm

You may also want to take a look at the Breast Cancer Care Moving Forward courses.

Best wishes, 

Lizzy 

that’s how I feel, in limbo, it’s like being a glass floor with an abyss beneath. I can never feel safe again, even in bed under the duvet I feel threatened. What you’re feeling is quite normal. We’re told to get on with it but it’s not easy.

Hi there, hadnt seen this till now, sorry about late reply.

 

yes, we all feel a bit like this…this disease is insiduously invisible most of the time. But I totally agree, it is impossible to sustain anxiety at that level over time, so you will feel better and start to adjust.

 

dont be afraid to check out any worries at all with your gp tho. Best wishes, keep posting and let us know how things are going

 

Moijanxx