Hi Folks
Looking for somewhere to talk and get a bit more info. Mom just 60 diagnosed for the 2nd time in her life with cancer, this time Breast cancer. Will be in hospital within 3 weeks to get op, what do i need to do to prepare for op adn what happens next.
Would appreciate any help anyone can give.
Thanks
Jools
hi hun so sorry to hear your news, you will get great support here the girls and boys are great. did they perform a mammogramme to see exactly how many lumps were there, if there was only one, then she may just have that lump removed, if not they may recommend a mastectomy and lympthnode clearence to see whether it has spread to the lympthnodes. after th op your mum will feel very sore and will need help for at least six weeks i had my op 4 weeks ago and still can be in quite a bit of pain, she wont be allowed to carry shopping either for this length of time especially heavy shopping.
the macmillan nurses should have already been in touch with you and your mum to explain all of what happens now. after the op, she should have aperiod of four weeks then see an oncologyst to disccuss treatment which may involve chemo and radio thearopy, then tehy will call her back again to plan a start date for chemo (if shes has to have this). thats as far as i can get as im due to start chemo on tuesday so i am still new to this. hope that helps a little and that i explained it clear enough (sorry only just woke up and kids being a pain lol)
good luck with everything i hope your mum makes a full recovery.
love ellie
Hi Julie
I am sorry to hear of your Mum’s recent diagnosis of breast cancer, I am sure you will continue to receive some valuable advice and support from your fellow users.
In addition, you and your Mum may find Breast Cancer Care’s ‘Resources Pack’ which has been designed for anyone newly diagnosed, it is filled with information to help you better understand the diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available:
breastcancercare.org.uk//content.php?page_id=7514
You and your Mum are also welcome to contact our freephone confidential helpline on 0808 800 6000, the helpline team can offer you further support and a ‘listening ear’ so that you can talk about anything that is worrying you at the moment. The helpline is open Monday to Friday 9am-5pm and Saturday 9am-2pm.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes
Lucy
Moderator
Breast Cancer Care
Thanks to Madgal1979 & The Moderator for your replies. Mom is acting at the moment as if it happening to someone else, very quiet and very calm about it all. I know different people react differently but is this reaction normal. Seen Macmillan nurse waiting for social worker to make contact now. Have ordered the Resource Pack, thakns for the tip. Await it’s arrival.
Reading some of the postings on this site, you are all extremely brave and very positive, well done you all.
Speak soon
Wishing all on here the very best
Jools xx
Hi there Jools
So sorry to hear about your Mum, ut so glad you found this site. I can understand her acting as if it is happening to someone else, especially at first it’s all so fast that you really don’t have time to fully digest everything. You feel very much like you’ve been thrown into a film set and you don’t know the lines! Fortunately the people caring for your Mum are well used to all the ways people react and are very careful to ensure that we really do understand.
Read up on the literature, it really does help. I’ve not done surgery yet, but I have all the info ready. Just take one step at a time. I have discovered that it really doesn’t help to start fretting about the next round of treatment or reading stories about it. As it gets closer and you know what exactly is planned, then you can get the information that is specific to what Mum needs.
I hope this wait isn’t too much of a trial for you all.
hugs,
Ruth
yes it is perfectly normal, I’ve been so strong from the start and even the Macmillan nurse thought id go to pieces but I’ve had so much support. i asked if i was normal lol, and she said your just a very strong person who is obviously very strong and able to cope.
I’m glad your mum is this way it will go along way in her treatment, do keep a close eye on her though in case it is a front as it could be. if you like pm me and i will give u email address (if its allowed???) dunno how to pm someone lol
good luck anyway hun and let her know we are all thinking of her.
Thanks for the kind words and comments from Ruth & madgal1979, at the moment they are the only thing keeping me going. Mom is so detached it is worrying. Gonna speak to someone tomorrow to get re-assurance.
Regards
Julie
julie thats ok, im not sure how i can get my email to you i would love to chat on a one on one basis. mod is tehre ne way i can get my email addy to her without breaching rules as im a rule abiding person lol
Hi everyone
Just thought i would pop in. Mom goes in Thursday for a lumpectomy, she is still very up but has had a few weepy moments. Stepdad is not coping with it too well, but trying to stay strong for mom. Hospital have told mom when she went last week for pre op checks that if all ok she can come home after 1 day with her drains in. Is this normal and where will the drains?
I received the Resource Pack, very informative, glad I ordered it, mom thinks it’s great, tells you so much she says.
Well enough waffle from me. Speak soon
Jools