Hello, somebody suggested that I post this in here. My mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in her liver and spine in August 2014. She’s had chemo and letrozole and is now on a chemo tablet but recently she has become very ill and spent a lot of time in hospital. She was bleeding internally due to her liver not being able to filter the blood because of the cancer, and she has started getting fluid building in her abdomen which has been drained once so far. She has been told she needs to get back on the tablet asap as it is her only hope but her body isn’t strong enough for it right now, she’s been off treatment for three weeks. She hasn’t been given anything specific but they said her prognosis isn’t good. I’m really scared, I don’t feel like she has much longer left. I’m 17 and I don’t want to lose my mum yet. I spoke to one teacher last year and he was so so helpful to me, but he left last July and I haven’t spoken to anybody since so I feel completely lost and I really want somebody to speak to again, but I’m not good at expressing myself or talking. Thank you so much to anybody who helps
Hello my name is Emma and I’m a lady with breast cancer too. You’ve done just the right thing asking for support. Mum would want you to be brave but not isolate yourself. Talk to another teacher at school or family member. Try to keep yourself busy and continue to do normal things like going out with friends etc. the thing with BC is that ladies today can live a lot lot longer than years ago once the doctors get them on the right medication.
I too have a poor prognosis and take chemo in tablet form, but I’m stable at the moment. Let’s pray they can get mum a little bit stronger and then re introduce these amazing drugs. I will pray for mum and yourself, having a faith has helped me very much. Tell mum how you are feeling when you next think is a good time. She will be worrying that you are worried about her!
im happy to chat again if you get scared or just need a friend
Emma x?
Hello nicodango
Sorry to hear about your mum I echo what Emma has said please keep in touch with us you will find plenty of support. Here you are allowed to vent hanger voice your fears or have a good chat so please do not worry on your own plenty of ladies know what you are going through.
What tablet is your mother on lots of ladies are on tablets mine is a chemo tablet called capecitabine.
Remember you are not alone xxx
Hi,
Really sorry to hear about your mum. My mum also has secondary brest cancer, in the bones and we have just found out its in the liver. She has had it for 2 and a half year now. I was only 16 when she was first diagnosed with cancer for the first time back in 2005. I know how horribal it is caring for you mum, however one thing that has helped me is that you never really know what is going to happen. Sometimes my mum is fine and then we fine out something is wrong. Other times shes really ill and the change some tablets and shes well again for a while. Shes been in hospital a few times when shes been very ill, but thankfully it made her stronger and she came out again.
Remember when shes in hospital she is in the best place if anything gets worse. I always look at it like getting her compleatly checked over which is better than waiting weeks for appointments!!!
Be strong for your mum, i always talk about lots of different things to my mum when shes ill to take her mind of it.
Hope all goes well, xx