Hello lovely,
Halfway through chemo! Whoop!! I remember feeling that the end felt like MILES away but the second half actually went pretty quickly. Are you swapping over to TAX?
As you know, I had my double mx last week (thanks for your message btw - much appreciated, I just haven’t got back to replying to everyone yet - been making the most of my recuperation!!). As I also had chemo first and as I have private health insurance I had the time and the means to do LOTS of research first (my insurance company covered as many consultations as I wanted, so I took advantage and saw quite a few breast surgeons and plastic surgeons until I was happy with my decision).
MOST surgeons I saw said the best result would be to be completely flatchested for a year until the healthy cells have recovered - and showed me pics to support this. However, there was no way I wanted to be flatchested for a year - the thought REALLY upset me - so I wanted to have the second best option for me!
First question is whether you’re having rads? If so, it isn’t recommended to use your own tissue as it is likely to be affected by the radiotherapy - and then you have to dig into ANOTHER section of your body if you want to build it up again. You only have one tummy and if they use it to make an amazing pair and then zap it - then you don’t have another tummy to fall back on. My surgeon showed me photos of the damage radiotherapy does and it can be quite substantial and the cells are damaged for years after rads. I saw piccies of ladies with a lovely matching pair after surgery to a completely wonky pair a year later where the radioed breast contracts and rises up. I have therefore had expander implants put in. They can be removed and replaced if they are damaged by rads and are a much more straightforward op than using your own tissue. It’s early days for me and there’s still some inflation to do - but so far I am really pleased and really worried about them being damaged by the rads as I’m really happy with them. I will then replace them either with a DIEP (tummy) recon or with implants.
The benefit of a DIEP flap is that it looks very natural and lasts. I’ve seen 3 different DIEP flat recons in the flesh and they looked amazing - just like normal breasts (although better as they were all perky and symmetrical!). These girls were obviously really pleased with the result as they were happy to show everyone - but I stopped at having a feel! But they said they felt really warm and natural and part of their body. For me, the biggest downside is the surgery itself. My plastic surgeon said for 2 boobs it will take about 20 hours and that I will be catheterised and bedbound for quite a few days afterwards as I recover. That scares me… And I was told a minimum of 2 months off work for recovery.
Implants are a much quicker and straightforward op, but have to be replaced over the years, they wont feel like part of your body and don’t give a very natural look. It’s not the same as the WAGS who have natural breast tissue in there as well as the implant pushing this up - it would literally be a mound of implant. That said, I don’t mind the shape I’ve got from my expandables so far. It’s not natural at all - quite like 2 tennis balls stuck on my chest - but I don’t really mind it. However, the feeling is so weird as it’s completely numb. I do feel as though I could do a Mrs Doubtfire and set fire to my chest and I wouldn’t feel anything. It’s a very strange feeling. And they’re quite solid, rather than the soft and bosomy result you get from a DIEP.
If you’re not having rads, then I think the decision is slightly easier as you’ll have the one big op (followed by smaller ops no matter which option you take to tidy, do nipple recon etc). I’ve decided to wait and see how I feel. I want the DIEP flap, but the thought of having massive surgery in a year’s time is already freaking me out - so if I get on with the implants I might have them replaced by implants and just put it off for a while. Although, in the long term I know I want it done, so maybe I should just bite the bullet!
Oh - and the bonus of a tummy tuck at the same time is also great! One of the girls I met was quite large but had a perfectly flat tummy as they obviously take all of the fat out of the lower part of the tummy and then pull it all down from the upper tummy. You then also get liposuction from the sides to tidy it all up! 
Good luck with your decision - let us know what you decide. Ask lots and lots of questions and ask to see lots and lots of photos. She might have patients who would be happy to show you their results in person too.
xx