Phoned my ex to ask him if he was going to the Dent Folk festival this weekend - we went together last year and I’m going with my new boyfriend this time - I said I’d just been newly diagnosed with breast cancer and felt very fragile, couldn’t cope with him or any of his family having a go at me. He said he wasn’t going and then he LAUGHED!
I said "so, you’re not going to say, sorry to hear that or I hope you get well soon? or, “how is Martha (my 9 year old ) coping?” and he said “no, what do you expect?”
A bit of human compassion is what I expected.
And thank Christ for my lovely new partner, he’s being a rock and he says he’ll still love me when I’m bald and only got one breast.
Bloody hell!
You are well shotof him, what a guy…glad you have someone else who is human!
Rosemary, thank goodness you are not with this callous ba…rd now. Good wishes to you, your daughter and the wonderful new partner.
Love the name and shame.
love Margaret
hey and you know, I was absolutely heartbroken when we split - last Sept - and now I 'm just so glad we did because he would not have shown a shred of compassion.
My new man is a gardener and the garden looks like the Chelsea Flower Show!
We’ve booked into a B and B for the festival because even though I’ve had this lump 9 months and put loads of tents up in that time, I suddenly feel like an ill person who shouldn’t sleep under canvas. Daft I know
you are better off without him you need someone that is going to be there for your daughter and yourself. how is she coping with it all. she sounds like a very grown up girl. hope you have a lovely time at the festival.
What a pig!!! You are well shot of him!
I had the opposite problem with my ex. We split up sept '06 and he still owes me £4000. I call him to explain my urgency for the money owed as I may not be able to work as before. He is now constantly calling or texting trying to make polite conversation and to appear concerned, but still no money! His last text said ‘I’m sure you have great people around you for support but don’t forget the guy who will sit at the bottom of your bed at 3am’. You may think thats nice of him but when we were together all he did was accuse me of sleeping with any man that passed by. He doesn’t seem to underastand I’m not interested I have more important things to be concern about, I just want what he owes me!
Thank god for your new partner. Shame your not closer to me…my garden is a state!!!
Hope you have a fantastic weekend!
Catherine x
Hey my first husband was like that, I was having affairs with bus drivers, work colleagues, waiters, old schoolfriends, even the obstetrician who came to see me in labour I was apparently flirting with! Then he went off with the woman who sat behind him at work. And then he went off with her best friend! Having said that he is a great support now.
I agree, you don’t need sympathetic texts, you need your £4k!
Is there any legal route you can go down to get it back?
Fiona x
I think its brilliant having a name and shame post. We should run a competition for the biggest B**tard and then send them a nice email telling them they have been awarded the “Callous B**tard of the Month” . Photos would be good too!
Fiona
Good to hear he is supportive now. The one about the obstetrician is the best…thats just hilarious!!! They often say the one laying the blame it the one who is playing away.
I think I could take him to a small claims court, its just finding the time now.
I am in total agreement with cathy, what a fantastic idea!!! I did wonder as fiona has given his name and addy if he might now recieve some hate mail!! lol
We are such cows!!! But funny ones!!!
Catherine x
I hate to say this but sometimes life has a way of coming back at people and god forbid he ever gets a nasty disease or such like…how totally insensitive he was, to not even ask about your child he must be the most heartless pig around…your so much better off not bothering with him, his day will come.
what goes around comes around - you will see your day with him. Heartless bugger. As for hate mail … perhaps the incontinence catalogue or the sex aid one might soon br dropping on John’s doormat 
Have a great time at the festival, Fiona and I am glad you will sleep in comfort this time. Words fail me re your ex !!! Thank heavens you got rid of him, it would be great to think he would soon need his own postal delivery bag, lol
Louise x
Lilac you are very naughty…but very funny!!! I haven’t laughed so much in days!!
May I take this opportunity to suggest a catalogue to aid impotence!!!
Hope somone caught the name it’s been deleted!!
I got it … I’m not as stupid as I look u know
hi, the name and address of my ex has been deleted because it’s against the site’s terms and conditions. Which I understand and am OK with.
Oh and by the way he never could manage it without his little blue pills, I found a receipt for 350 Viagra in his drawer, he said “they were a free sample” - pretty big free sample heh
and thanks for your replies, you are all lovely and I am so glad I have found this forum. I’m living with breast cancer and have loads of support from my wonderful friends and family, he has to live with being emotionally dead and has no friends (I wonder why?). I should pray for him. However, I don’t feel like it. x
oh shame he needed the blue pills - mind u with 350 in stock he must have been planning a reasonably regular pattern… one a day less his 2 weeks summer break and possibly christmas day!
Cathy 59 , My OH is a worthy contender for that award … currently running on another thread … I tell you he is f"“”“”"g priceless !!!