my friend is dying from breast cancer and it’s all so wrong, she’s so fantastic and so lovely and so inspirational and so brilliant and so much should live more for herself and her lovely family and her lovely friends
it’s very very rubbish
i saw her today and she looks so brilliant and is still herself but has a month to live -horrible and so wrong
i was diagnosed a year ago and am feeling really well but I know there’s always the chance it will come back… how do you live with the knowledge that it will come back one day and you will die of breast cancer one day??
at the moment it seems a certainty and i’m very scared
Hi Hannah, where are your friend’s secondaries? Has she had secondaries very long? I’m so sorry she’s been told she only has a few weeks to live, I hope she’s having lots of pain relief if she needs it and all the help and support that’s available. I was diagnosed with secondaries from the very beginning, in 2003, so I’ve had a while to get my head round things. But at times it still feels unreal. I’ve met many others with secondaries and just like your friend we all look surprisingly fit and well most of the time. Most meet ups are very lively, fun and life affirming too. If you are able to have some time to get used to your diagnosis life somehow seems to go on…shopping still has to be done, kids collected from school, all the normal stuff…we all have ups and downs though. Treatments fail or you can have times of stability, it’s such a rollercoaster ride.
Sorry I’ve rambled a bit but thinking of your friend …and you too…Very Best Wishes, Belinda…xx
So sorry Hannah,
How bl**dy awful!
This disease is so unpredictable. You could be one of th lucky ones. I think that thought keeps most of us going! You are bound to feel so low with the sad news of your friend. My onc said to me’ if you live another 20 years, how sad it would be to look back and just see that you spent the time worrying’
Sending a cyber hug to you
Love Julie XX
I am sorry to read about your friend and the worries you have about your own health, if you feel it would help to talk things through in confidence please feel free to call our helpliners on 0808 800 6000. The line is open monday to Friday 9am-5pm and Saturday 9am-2pm and is staffed by specialist breast care nurses and others who have had experience of breast cancer.
Oh Hannah I am so sorry … just remember that everyone is different and has a different type of breast cancer with different secondaries so please don’t compare this awful thing that has happened to your friend to yourself and let it get you down. Many women live many years and lots seem to be in permanent recession.
I ask the same as Belinda … where are her secondaries?
Thinking about you
Sue x