Hi,
Was told yesterday that my gran has breast cancer. She is going to see a specialist on Tuesday. She has been told that she will either be treated with either chemo or medication. Don’t really have any more information at the moment.
She 85 and to be honest just want an idea of what she can expect. Because she’s older will she have less evasive treatment. I suppose what I want to know is is she going to die?
Hi Toriaplum
Welcome to the discussion forums, I’m sorry to read of your gran’s recent diagnosis and I am sure that your fellow forum members will be along soon with valuable support and advice, you are also welcome to call our freephone confidential helpline for a chat with one of our specialist nurses, our team can offer you a ‘listening ear’, advice and information. The number to call is 0808 800 6000 Mon-Fri 9am-5pm and Sat 9am-2pm.
Best wishes
Katie
Toriaplum
I am so sorry to hear about your Gran. It must be very scary for you…and for her. Since you know her health in general, it might be good to call the nurse and talk. I am in your Gram’s place…have BC, been through 3 chemo treatments, have much to go.
As a family member, the best role you can play with your Gram is to be cheerful and caring…but real. While you want her to be positive, sometimes people just need to cry or be sad. Try not to be so cheerful as to be depressing, if you know what I mean. Don’t downplay her symptoms or treat her like china. Give her many hugs. That covers a multitude of things, knowing that people aren’t afraid to touch you. And just be with her. My family loves card games, how about yours? Find something that takes her mind off the horror of it all and play it with her. Take her for a short walk outside if it is nice. Just be a good granddaughter and love her.
Feel free to talk to us on this forum and let us know how she and YOU are doing. It will help you to read through these forums.
many hugs,
Emily
xxx
Just a little message to say I am thinking of you and your gran. I know it is all very scary and I think sometimes it’s probably easier to be the patient, which may sound daft but at least being the patient means you are not on the sidelines feeling helpless. The main thing I insited on was that I did not want to be treated as a poorly person and I be allowed to do things if I felt up to it … like going back to work when I felt fit, it took a bit of persuading with some ppl but once I was able to prove I was being sensible and not doing stuff that was beyond me they backed down and allowed me the freedom to deal with things my way. Obviously, at 40 I am much younger than your Gran but I’m sure there will still be things that she is capable of doing for herself, and having cancer does not necessarily mean she will suddenly become a helpless invalid… let her do things for herself if she is capable.
Hope all goes well with her treatment and she does not have too hard a time. There are also loads of lovely ppl here who will be delighted to offer you support every step of the way.
Thank you for your posts. The initial shock has subsided and talking to my gran has help. She is taking everything in her stride as always.
She saw the oncologist on Tuesday. They have recommended a double mastectomy, removal of lymph glands and chemo. My gran is talking about asking the Dr for Jordan’s boobs. 
At the moment she is waiting for an appointment for a bone scan. How long does it take to get an appointment and begin treatment.
The lumps are slow growing. The Dr said the larger one could have been growing for 5 years.
Thank you again
Toria