My mum too

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Hello everyone,

My mum was diagnosed with grade 3 invasive carcinoma on Friday 13th Feb. Something very small was detected in her yearly scan and proved to be a 2mm carcinoma. She will have it removed on 12th March (which seems an awfully long time to wait - although having been on this site for an hour it seems that it isn’t too long really???) and the lymph nodes will be checked during the opp before they know what to do from there. Should we try to get something sooner done?

My mum doesn’t really want to know too much about the diagnosis, she is 66 and has been my dads carer for nearly 20 years and I worry about them both, she keeps herself very busy in the day, but has been panicking a bit in the night time.

I’ve just returned from spending a few days with them both, we visited a local breast cancer support group and I’m trying to arrange activities that will help Mum keep her mind occupied and positive. She suffered from depression a few years back when dads condition got worse and I am really encouraging her (and dad) to talk about things and perhaps see a councillor, but I don’t want to invade their space either. I’m worried that she feels alone, especially considering my dads needs.

I just wanted to share this really, it all feels so unreal for me still. Goodness knows what my Mum is going through.

Thanks for all your words on this site, it has helped. I am going to introduce you all to my Mum next time I visit and see if chatting on here to you guys will help. She doesn’t use computers, but dad does so its worth a try…

Thanks for reading,

Tru x

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Hi!

So sorry to hear about your Mum, but if her tumour is only 2mm that is so so tiny. Mine was 7mm and I was told it would have taken me 5 years to feel it as a lump. So I’m sure her prognosis is very good and because it is so tiny then waiting 4 weeks for the op isn’t that long - it must be very slow growing. If her lymph nodes are clear then she will probably only need radiotherapy after her operation - they’ll check the nodes when they do the op. Best wishes to your Mum.

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Thanks very much Redders, you make a lot of sense and they do seem to have caught it in good time. Its the invasive grade that worried me most, the term kind of gets a bit trapped in my mind. Yet, it is tiny. Like everyone says its the waiting that takes its toll. All the very best to you too.