My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer today. I am completely petrified. I have a husband and a beautiful 8 year old son who I have decided to temporarily keep in the dark, just until I know more. My Husband is incredibly suportive and my brothers and sisters seem to be coping (probably to then I am coping). I know this is our first day and we have quite a few hurdles to go, I just wanted to put in words how I feel. I really don’t mind if I get know comments I just feel better getting it out.
So sorry to hear about your Mum. This is the worst bit for all of you - having had the dreaded news, but not sure what’s happening next.
You don’t say anything about your Mum’s diagnosis (dx), but once they have done enough investigations to give a treatment plan, I’m sure you will all feel better.
I’m glad that you have the support of your husband and siblings - I’m sure you’ll all do your bit to support your Mum.
Why not give the BCC helpline a call in the morning? I’m sure they’ll be able to help allay some of your fears.
Take care and don’t be afraid to come back here with any questions - there’s no such thing as a silly one.
Welcome to the BCC forums where I am sure you will continue to receive lots of support and shared experiences, in addition our helpline is open 9-5 weekdays and 9-2 Saturdays so please feel free to call and share your feelings and concerns on 0808 800 6000
Sorry to hear your news about your mum. It is still so clear in my mind the day I found out that my mum had breast cancer too. The world slightly freezes for a bit.
Like the other ladies have said once you know all the facts, the treatment plan this starts to take over your life and some structure starts to follow.
My mums road has been tough and I’m sure your mum will be so grateful for all the support but you will also need support from your siblings and hopefully friends.
If you every need a rant or have any questions please feel free to post. I’d be more than happy to chat.
It is a shock when your mum develops BC… I was 36 and my mum was 57 when she was diagnosed with BC… About a year later I got diagnosed at 37 then in the other breast at 40 and then a recurrence at 43… I think I was probably a bit more cautious at checking or at least going to see the doc about it after mums diagnosis… Maybe I would have left it longer if she hadn’t had BC.
I do have a genetic mutation in the brca 2 gene but my mum doesn’t… it was purely coincidental we were diagnosed so close together but if she hshe hadn’t gone through this I do wonder if I would have been so quick at getting it checked out or if I’d have put it off for a few months… So I thank her for saving my life!
It’s now over 7 years since mum was diagnosed and she is very well. Hope this is the same for our mum too.
You don’t say what age your mum is but if she was diagnosed after age 40 and there are no other instances of breast cancer in the family it is much less likely to be genetic… So hopefully that will help to reassure you.
At the outset when your first diagnosed its a really shock for you and for your family… I know my mum took my diagnosis harder than hers and i took hers harder than mine…it is incredibly hard for family members to deal with and I know it’s all so knew and nobody really knows what’s happening but as it starts tobeome clearer it does get easier when you know what ou are dealing with and what her treatment is likely to be.
Speak to our mum though and ask her how she is really feeling and it’s ok to cry and be upset it’s scary for everybody… But on the positive side the survival following diagnosis is around 90% are still alive and well 10 years after dianosis and these stats are oing p all the time as new treatments are become available.
Hi Emma i have just found out that my mum had BC too!I am not coping very well at all at the moment as she was only diagnosed on friday so its still so raw and we still dont know what grade it is or what treatment she will need! This limbo stage is horrendous and scary! sending lots of love and positive thoughts to you, your mum and family!xxxx
Hope you all still check this thread as I can identify with all of you. My Mum’s diagnosis was today and this whole limbo between today and her lumpectomy in three weeks seems like some weird time zone where nothing else matters but you almost become obsessed with what could happen or with a million questions. Is hard too as my Dad is there with her so they are clearer on the details but is hard hearing it all without the chance to ask questions of my own.
I think it’s difficult to know what is going to happen when thins change - my daughter and I both hugged and cried when i was told the lump was cancer and she said " I don’t want you to die" she’s 19 by the way - at that time I told her it was fine - just an operation then radiotherapy - however things change as you go along and when I was told I had cancer in one lymph node then it changed to another op followed by chemo followed by rads followed by tamoxifen.
Don’t be scared to ask your mum and dad but you might find they don’t have the answers either and it’s a matter of waiting to see - sorry it’s not easy - but do be prepared for change xxx