Posted on behalf of new user Michael - Jo, Facilitator
Not really know what to say. Is there any information for a very loving husband who just wants to support his wife completely.
Hi Michael I think just being there is enough, my husband has been a tower of support; but its also good tore beer how you are coping too! It’s hard for both of you to deal with this, we have just talked and gave each other space if we need it. We had good advice from each other and did research when we had the facts about our case and diagnosis, the fact you are there is sometimes enough. I had some friends who treated me with the head tilt and sad face! That is not a good sight to look at as I wide not need sympathy, just support.
Hope this was off some use.
Mary
Hi, just to add my little bit. I think its great you have come on these boards as a starter. You obviously care and want to do best by your wife. I would say my other half as also been fabulous with me too. He’s dried my tears, taken me to appointments, and never once moaned. I think you also need a support network too…as it can all get a bit full on when treatment starts.
This site is an excellent sort of information. If you know what treatment yor wife is having i would have a read, so you know what to expect. Yes the doctors will tell you, but you might not take it all in…
I would also say, of you do go to appointments with your wife…dont be afraid to ask questions. Think of aything you may want to ask and write it down beforehand. So you are prepared.
I hope that helps a little.
Rae
Hi there Micheal
Welcome to the BCC forums, in addition to the support here you may find our ‘In it together’ publication useful to read, it has been wriiten for partners and family of those affected by breast cancer, you will find the link for that and lots of other information and support ideas via the following link:
Take care
Lucy
Just be there for her but not overpowering , give her some space too. My hubby has been my rock coming with me to all appts and chemo sessions, he shaved my head for me, talked with me, cuddled me, dried my tears, laughed with me and reassured me and told me he loved me no matter what. Good luck to you both keep strong and you’ll get through it together xx
Hi Michael,
Well done for coming here for help and advice.
My husband is being a tower of strength. He takes me to all my appointments, sits in with me, asks his own questions, and has read up all about my particular diagnosis and future treatments so he knows for himself what to expect. He keeps coming up with tips and tricks to help with chemo side effects, even though I am still a long way off starting chemo, and is generally brilliant. He knows he will have to take over my own household jobs much of the time and is happy to do this, and is currently working out when we may be able to go on holiday to celebrate the end of it all. Yesterday he told me, quite sincerely, that he would do anything to be able to change places with me. That made me cry, but also made me realise how much he loves me - and that alone will carry me through this journey.
Good luck to you both.