new person here

Hello, I was diagnosed in 2007 and I had to stop taking the pill because of it contained hormones or something. Anyway I am in the clear so far but can’t have normal sex like I used to and that really upsets me. My partner does not want to use the condom and feels that he shouldn’t have to. What can I do?
I think it’s nice to talk to other people who are or have been in the same situation as me. Thanks in advance.