newly diagnosed and just feel sick

Hi ladies,
I am 32 andhave just been diagnosed on thursday. Scared just isnt the word. Im not sure which type of cancer it is but it’s just behind my left nipple and is 2cm. There is lymph node involvement too. They have said I have time for seeing the fertility consultant and theye are happy with what they can see at the moment. They have suggested lumpectomy followed by radio and possibly chemo. I have an mri booked for Tuesday to confirm the size. So so scared it has spread else where but they have tried to reassure me that this wont be the case but how can they be so sure? ! Keep looking at my 2 year old daughter thinking I’m not going to be around to see her grow up, its driving me mad. I just want this thing out of me!!! Reading around the forum fills me with some hope.

Hi RachB, sorry you find yourself on this site at such a young age, but the treatment has come on leaps and bounds in recent years.
Just take everything one day at a time and take time for yourself. You have things to live for so don’t even think of the other options!! I had a Mx on Monday this week and am recovering at home nicely. Keep positive I looked at the worst happening and if it doesn’t then it’s a bonus but everybody is different. Don’t waste energy on feeling sorry for myself as Marty need my energy for getting through this. I had IDC 50mm and DCIS both in one boob greedy I know but that’s me lol.
I have 2 grandchildren and one on the way and am determined to see them grow up as my mum died when mine were 11and 12 and I am not letting history repeat itself.
Deal with this in your own way and try not to worry I know it’s easy to say but you need to be strong for what life throws at you.
sorry if I’m waffling but hope I’ve helped in some way
Marie xxx

Hi rachb,
There is nothing worse in this world then hearing your have cancer, in my opinion. Once that sinks in then you start worrying about it, I know. Hang in there, wait to find out the type, stage etc, my lump was 5.5, but only stage 2b. So what i am trying to say is when you are ready, read up on breast cancer, to know what questions to ask, and try to think positive!!
The team of doctors I ended up with is what I call a dream team. They listened to my concerns and walked me thu the treament options. I felt a part of the team. I myself had chemo followed by surgery double MX (my choice) and reconstruction at the same time, now getting ready for radiolation treatment. I say I am on the road to being a BC survivor, finish line is visible.
Breast Cancer Treatment has come a long way, give your baby a hug and plan on being around a long time

Hi Rachb, I was diagnosed on 5th March and I know how you feel. I had a 16mm lump in left breast near a cyst and a 15mm lump under my left arm. I like to think of myself as fairly intelligent and articulate, but when they said cancer it was like I’d suddenly turned simple. Loads of info to read and then they asked if I wanted chemo first or operation to remove lumps first, i didnt know, i thought they were supposed to tell me how it would be dealt with. I had a bone scan and a ct scan to see if it was anywhere else, that was probably the worst bit waiting for the results of the scans for a week, I just tried to focus on keeping life as normal as possible and carried on going to work, but I have shed a few tears and felt like screaming occasionally!! This forum is a good place to have a moan or to just be reassured.
Im not great at being reassuring, but take it one day at a time, that’s what I do. I’m home now after the WLE and node removal with a drain still in so I have a bit of time on my hands. Hoping to see a nurse later to detach me from my drain. I’m feeling very optimistic now and it does get better when you know what you’re dealing with, so hang on in there.
Best wishes. lexi42

Thank you for your replies ladies. You fill me with hope. We lost our first daughter 3years ago and we were just starting to be happy again then this hits us. I’ve got aches and pains now that I didn’t have before my diagnosis so convincing myself its spread. Imagining all sorts, is this normal? Think I will feel more comfortable was the results of MRI are back and a plan is in place. The cancer is estrogen receptive so apparently that’s a good thing?

hi there
I too have just been diagnosed and awaiting my op, I know I will have to have radiotherapy and chemo after that. I have like you felt physically sick and suddenly aches and pains I didnt have before, I dont know if this is just down to the stress and lack of sleep but it does worry me slightly. I am waiting a scan to see if it has gone elsewhere so totally agree its the waiting around not knowing what I am dealing with that bothers me at the min. I want this alien thing out of me and start fighting it and I know not being a confident person that is going to be hard, but we shall go through it together xxxx

Hi ladies
I just wanted to say I wish you all the very best in your treatment/tests scans etc , the waiting is by far the worst period I found, once you receive the devastating news you have bc you just want to get on with treatment etc, I found once that starts you have something to focus on and goals to reach , you have been given the worst possible news and it takes time to sink in , then they want to scan for further spread now that one really freaked me out I had visions of it everywhere !! but once it was done I could focus on the surgery/chemo etc , I am so sorry you had to join us but you will find lots of support on here , take care one and all

Virtual hugs to all needing them


I discovered a lump just over two weeks ago and suspected something was wrong.
I was advised last week that 1 have two lumps - one 3cm and one a few mm both malignant and classed as type 2 and 3 in my right breast. I don’t know anymore at this stage.
I feel as if my life has turned upside down in a short space of time. I feel sick constantly, can’t sleep and feel completely overwhelmed.
I too have felt aches and pains. Been advised that I should expect notification of a hospital appointment this week.
Worried about the body scan and trying to be positive but don’t feel it right now.
I’m glad I have found this site.

Dear Eveb

Welcome to the BCC forums, I am sure your fellow users will be along soon with lots of support for you, please also feel free to call our helpliners to talk your worries over, lines are open 9-5 during the week and 10-2 Saturdays on 0808 800 6000

Here’s a link to the ‘Just diagnosed’ page where you will find lots of information and support ideas from BCC which I hope you will find helpful:\_source=Homepage&%3Butm\_medium=help\_you&%3Butm\_campaign=diagnosis

Take care


Hi eveb62,
it’s understandable that at this early stage, when you only have some pieces of the jigsaw, that you will feel traumatised. Although I took my diagnosis quite calmly (as I counted myself very lucky I was grade 1) I still felt pains in my other breast which I had never felt before. They turned out to be nothing. You will I am sure feel more able to cope when you have a treatment plan. Until then it’s almost like you are told you are going in to battle, but don’t quite know what weapons either side have. Keep in mind that the medical professionals have all sorts they can throw at breast cancer nowadays to ensure you win the battle.
Don’t be afraid to chase them if you don’t get an appointment as quickly as promised. You are important!

Hi rach. I’m 33 and waiting to know results on very suspicious sites. Sending you a hug and PM me if you want to chat about anything anytime xxx

Hi Rachb, and to all other newly diagnosed ladies and those in the “waiting room.” I was diagnosed two and a half years ago, and like you, as soon as I knew that it was there, I felt like I couldn’t rest until it was gone. I also was sure it was spreading its nastiness around me, although they kept trying to reassure me that a few weeks until surgery would make no difference.

I lost my mum to breast cancer at a young age, her and me, and imagined myself back there. I can honestly say that the stage you are at now is the worst part, the very worst part. A combination of shock and fear until you get all the scans and checks done to know exactly what you are dealing with. Sadly none of us can make that much better for you. As others are saying though, please know that there is life after bc and you will get through treatment if you keep on taking it one day and one step at a time.

Treatments are much much better than they were in my mum’s time and they are getting better all the time. The types of diagnostics and treatments to get rid of it, and also to block it ever coming back are way, way more advanced.

I remember so well the horrible feeling of being where you are now. I had aches and pains and thought every twinge meant that it had spread. I honestly thought I wouldnt see my kids grow up, as a single parent, that was the worst thought of all. my bc hadn’t spread, and oddly, even though I think I am a fairly calm, rational and moderately sensible person, those aches and pains disappeared as soon as scans showed that I had no spread, and had had the lump removed.

As you have a plan for the best treatment for you, you will begin to feel a little better. Surgery to get rid of the nasty *uggers made me feel massively better, and one day at a time, you will get through this.
Two and a half years on, I have “no evidence of disease” and am in the system being checked and taking drugs to block it from ever returning. I have also had reconstruction after my WLE using fat transfer and have virtually no visible evidence left of my surgery. I can honestly say that my life is very much on track. I have just accepted a new job, my kids are doing well.

Hang on in. One day at a time. It will get better. I look back now and it feels so surreal, almost like it was a nightmare or something that happened to someone else. Sending hugs. If ever any of us can hold your hand virtually, or explain any of the strange terminology, or just be here to talk to, just holler and we will be here.

MG x

Mary grace that’s such a lovely positive post. Xx

Mary Grace,

May your good health continue. It’s lovely to hear from someone who has ‘come out’ the other end of this intact and with a positive and well balanced attitude. Good luck to you.

Poemsgalore xx

Hi Mary Grace

Thank you for your very uplifing post - I’ve had my WLE & SNB and I’m just waiting on the results. I’m afraid the nasty waiting room gripped hold of me the other day, but I’m back on track now thanks to all the ladies on here.

Your post has given me inspiration and most of all hope. Thank you.

Martha xx

Hi Rac, I was diagnosed yesterday. I’m 28 and like you I have to have an MRI next thursday so they can get a clearer picture of the size and location etc. They mentioned fertility to me aswell and talked about having my eggs frozen, I don’t have children and it’s not something I started to seriously think about until now. They’ve suggested the same course of treatment that you’ve mentioned, so I guess we’re in the same boat. PM me if you like, hope you’re ok x

Hi rach and all newly diagnosed ladies!

im in the nursing profession and care for ladies in the community when they come home after BC surgery! And often use to say I don’t know how I would feel if it was to happen to me ! As my ladies always put on a brave face when I see them!
Well now I know exactly how they feel and how it felt, as diagnosed in November 12 with IDC a mass in rt breast 3cms x 2.5cm grade 3. Picked up on my first mammogram! Felt all of the above and it shouldn’t happen to me as care for patients not become one! But hey I’m now know I’m human! I had WLE and SNB. Followed by chemo E-CMF now coming to end of my rads, 6 more to go! reconstructive surgery later this year! Hoping to be back at work next month!
Not going to say its been easy but my good days out whey my bad days and having a great support network around me has helped!
i found it so hard to admit I was struggling and not coping with my diagnoses and mostly losing my hair, so two weeks ago I went through my information pack, which I had shoved away in a draw and found a Headstrong leaflet with this site and helpline , I found the strength to call and its been the best thing I’ve done, wish I had done it sooner, speaking to some lovely ladies who are feeling just the same And truly understand what I’m feeling.
never heard the words "be strong and patient " so much, easier said I know! But you know we are Strong ladies even when we don’t feel it! And patience well Ive never been but got better at it lately!
i keep saying to my friends this time next year we will sit and say what was that all about! I’m still here enjoying life!
Best wishes to you all with results and treatment. Thinking of you all
Norms xx

Hi Rach,
So sorry that you’ve had to find yourself here.
I start chemo on Tuesday, but I too suffer with aches and pains…which in turn causes panic…‘is it spreading’
All I can say is that I know once treatment starts I will feel a sense of relief, until then waiting is not easy…
We’ll get through this, life is good and we are strong
The ladies on here are lovely, and very helpful…

I was diognosed with breast cancer on Friday. I have cried so much, can’t sleep, it’s all I can think about. Telling my childen, family and friends has been the hardest thing.  I almost feel that I can feel the cancer spreading in my breast, and am so scared. It is in my lymph nodes too, and I don’t know what to think. I am starting chemotherapy this week, and would like to know from anyone who has gone through this? Will I definitely loose my hair? Are my feelings normal, will me life ever be the same again, please help? 


Hello Jjmabbatt and Kay, there are so many feelings that you experience when first diagnosed, shock, anxiety, fear. I was very tearful and people only had to ask how I was and I would just crumble.  My story is similar to yours Kay in that I had a mammogram at 48 which was clear, I then found a small lump a year later and was referred and again the mammogram was clear but an ultrasound confirmed the lump and a biopsy confirmed it was cancer. The early days were very hard but it really does get easier. I had an mri to make sure there were no other lumps (there weren’t), then a lumpectomy followed by a re-excision 2 weeks later due to unclear margins. My nodes were clear and I did not have chemo but did have radiotherapy.  My journey has been easier than for some and I was diagnosed in Feb this year and finished radiotherapy in June.  Once you both start whatever treatment  is put in place for you, you will amaze yourselves by just how strong you really are.  Don’t be afraid to have bad days when it all seems so overwhelming and don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice if you need it, whether on this forum or using your breast cancer nurse.  We are human afterall and don’t have to be strong 100% of the time.  You will get through this. Take care all you ladies who are going through this awful time at the moment.  Michelle xx