Hope it went as well as it could today. This has been the most stressful thing I have ever dealt with too - totally understand how freaked out you have been feeling!
All best wishes,
Jacqui
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Feeling a bit calmer now. Meeting with surgeon went well. Lots of tears and poor man was very understanding. Am booked in for mastectomy on 13 Oct. Have to go in on 12 for node thing and stay for 2 nights I think he said. Opted for mastectomy as I feel it gives me the best chance. Offered mastoplasty but then I would have to have other side done in future to match!! Just going to focus on op for now to get rid of my evil lump. Will face any further treatment when results come back from op.
I’m glad to hear you feel better after seeing the surgeon. It is very stressful being diagnosed but I have had my sentinel Node Biopsy and WLE and there was nothing painful. I hope yours goes well. This is a great place for support.
Sue
I had a lovely time at the spa it did keep my mind off things, and have gone to work as well this week so that’s helped.I’m having my WLE and node test next Friday and I am so scared , It’s the not knowing, has it spread what happens then is that bad if it has spread.Don’t know how I will get through two weeks wait for results.Cant believe this has all happened in three weeks.
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Glad you had a good time at the spa happygolucky, it’s good to relax. Have a date for 13th Oct for mastectomy. I feel this is the best way forward for me, have to go in for 2 nights as the hospital is in a different town to mine and we don’t drive. Practicalities are we need accommodation for my husband, will book hotel or b&b. Have appt for pre op on 19th at local hospital. Had a big meltdown last night and cried for half hour at injustice of it all, why me etc? but strangely slept all night for the first time since I found my lump. Today is another day and feel much better for a good cry.
I have had a few melt down moments myself , and am counting the days till my op then having to count down for results.I hope you are trying to relax too as we need to be as positive…that bloody word !!!
They have said I will more than likely have to have chemo cos of my age…Im petrified .We have to stay strong .big hugs .xxx
Never used a forum before but reeling with news of this bloody disease on Friday. How do I let my 13 year old son know what is happening without scaring him to death when I’m scared enough for both of us. I am getting exhausted being positive when I feel like screaming. I’m a single parent & he was so angry at me when he found out, He has calmed down now & is trying to be supportive but he is terrified. Is there help for kids in his situation, he doesnt want his friends to know i have cancer. The whole thing just seems to have overwhelmed me- I feel like such a wimp.
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I know what you mean about the positive word, it gets on my nerves!!! The nurses and doctors keep mentioning the chemo word to me to and that scares me also, I’m terrified as it is. Just going one day at a time is all I can take at the moment. I get on with day to day stuff and then it hits me all over again!!! Got some sedatives off the doctor but only using them when I get too bad. Managed a full normal day activity yesterday then couldn’t get out of bed this morning for fear again!! sorry to rant. M
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typing this totally fed up now, I look after my grandson 2 nights a week because my daughter works, I have just had to pack up his things
to take home as I cannot manage him overnight when I have my mastectomy or for whatever is in store after. Have reassured him we will still see him everyday from school but he is only 3 and doesn’t understand. I hate this bloody situation already!!! just needed a rant sorry!!!
thank you ladies I was also newly diagnosed on Thursday and since then it has been a blur, but today I feel like I am me again just with an evil demon inside me, sure someone up there will help me fight it along with you ladies. I can remember the doctor saying something about a 16mm, wire nodes, 2 lymph glands etc but it didn’t sink in today I am thinking clearly and reading this has helped me piece together the conversation I had with him, think I had blocked it out
I didn’t feel my lump at all didn’t know I had one, but I am one of the very lucky ladies called up for early screening before 50 and hey presto they found it, someone somewhere is definitely looking after me. Thanks for all the help and advice on this thread you don’t know how much your comments have helped. All the family told now, that was as someone said worse than diagnosis, hurting the family you love that seemed so wrong :((((
Hi… Im new here I got diagnosed On friday morning!! Im terrified!.. My mum had breast cancer too… But im not sure thats helping me even though she survied!
Im a mum of 2 married and have LOTS of supporting people… But i still feel so so alone! Im 25,26 in oct!
Im in a surreal world of blurry compleat baffelled-ness!
The whole procedure hasnt kicked into my mind yet! I dont know where to begin… All i seem to be able to do is cry and sleep!
ANYONE OUT THERE WHO CAN HELP PLEASE… THANKS JO X
Hi sunflower
I don’t have a lot of close family but found I couldn’t do it face to face I told over the phone. Only my daughters were told personally by me and my hubby. This journey is a strange one. I found my lump by my grandson catching my boob with his foot. How strange is that? I find that my conversations with the doctors come back to me a few days later. I feel I am still the same person as you say just with something that needs to be dealt with whatever it takes I am prepared to do. M
Hi mrsjojo22,
Welcome to the Breast Cancer Care Discussion Forums. I’m sure other users will be along soon to offer support but please do also remember that the BCC Helpline is there for you if it would help to talk to someone in confidence. The helpline offers emotional support, information on services and also a range of publications which may be helpful, Tel 0808 800 6000 Mon-Fri 9am until 5pm and Sat 9am until 2pm.
With best wishes,
Anna, BCC Facilitator
Mrs jojo22,
I’m so sorry you’ve had to join us…
You are definitely in the worst place at the moment. I remember thinking the bottom had fallen out of my life. Lost 7lbs in a week and shook. Once you get a treatment plan things will be more positive and you will be able to focus on moving forward.
Im glad you thought to post here…there are so many great ladies who will give you time and support… I never found the site until 3 years post dx.
Be kind to yourself,and talk out your feelings/fears/concerns here. There will always be someone to answer and be there. Sometimes it is easier to “talk” here than at home with those around you as you spend your time trying to be strong.
With my love and empathy
Blessing.
Hi jo, so sorry you find yourself here.
It is so terrifying at first, everything swirling round your head, so many questions and no answers. You are doing well to have found us here, there are so many lovely ladies here with wise words, I have found it so helpful when no one else seems to understand.
Hopefully you will feel calmer as you get more information and a treatment plan, please carry on posting, there is a forum for younger women that you may find informative where you can speak to ladies of a similar age.
Take care, one day at a time
Jules
Xx
Thankyou all so much for your comments!! Ill be back soon xxx
Hi jo
I was diagnosed only a month ago but it seems so much longer than that now. I was in such a state I couldn’t function. Harrietxxx has said it all, once you get some more info and a treatment plan you do calm down a bit. There is a forum for younger women, try logging on there as well to talk to people of your own age, I am 52 but do still understand how you are feeling at the moment. I try to take it one day at a time. Take care.M
from miss allyson, please please can some one help me i am so terrified i was diagnosed with bc grade 3 on the 25 july had mastectomy on the 24 august six lymph nodes taken five with cancer.last week had ct scan for liver and lung then bone scan go for results tue 27 september.have to have tac chemotherapy then all of my lymph nodes take then radiotherapy .Iam terrified it has spread cant eat sleep i am 51 never been ill dont know what i am doing.As you can see from this email my grammar and spelling is not good.so devistated cant take in what the doctors say can they tell from pre op x rays and blood test if anything is wrong please some one help.
Dear miss allyson,
Welcome to the Breast Cancer Care Discussion Forums. It sounds like you’re having a really difficult time at the moment. I’m sure other forum users will be along soon to offer you support but maybe it would be helpful to give your breast cancer nurse a call in the morning and let them know how you’re feeling.
The BCC Helpline is also available if your need emotional support, it reopens tomorrow morning at 9am Tel 0808 800 6000 (Mon-Fri 9-5pm and Sat 9am-2pm)
With best wishes,
Anna, BCC Facilitator
Hi miss allyson, you’ve already dealt with a lot with the mastectomy etc & i can totally understand how petrified u must be. You’ve had cancer in some of your lymph nodes but it doesnt automatically mean that its in the rest or has spread further. I dont know if they can tell from xrays or bloods but i’d have thought u would have been told by now if they knew anything else. I was the same as u in the fact that i’d hardly ever been ill so it came as a huge shock to get BC. Tomorrow will be hard for u but you’ll know for sure what’s going on which is better than all this waiting & worrying, its really hard. Make sure u take someone with u & take a notepad. Pls let us know how u get on & try & get some sleep tonight,take care x