hi lillian
I’m also Grade 3, just turned 51 - a ‘young woman’ in breast cancer terms apparently. I had an MX in July and am about to have chemo, then radiotherapy. I was told very definitely by the surgeons when i first was diagnosed, that the treatment was intended as ‘curative’. There was no thought that I should give up and give in to it, but that the treatment would mean that I would get over it. I’ve since had wobbles, most of the time I’m a head in the sand person about it and until recently didn’t entertain the thought that i would be anything but cured of it. For me it’s the best way of dealing with it, but everyone’s different.
Like many others on here, I’d never joined a forum or even posted a message online before. But i have found this site to be a mental health saver. During the good times it’s a source of information at the very least, and during the recent bad ones, it’s probably helped me more than anything. I’m not really a joiner of anything and I’m not ready to go to a support group in person yet - but I find I get lots of support on here.
This may sound like a very obvious suggestion, but have you tried printing out some of the responses to your post and showing them to her? It may reassure her that we’re not all hysterical or weird. Part of the reason I ended up posting a photo of me in my profile, is that I found it enormously comforting to see pictures of normal, ordinairy women of all ages and types on this site. So I thought I should do the same. I first posted when I had a real enquiry which was about reconstruction that I thought only women who’d actually had the operation done could answer - and they did. So you don’t have to lay bare your feelings here, it can just be to get information if you like. And then if you ever need to rant, moan, grieve - you can do that too!
It’s great that you’re trying to find as much info for her as you can, my mother is also very supportive but i think struggles to know how to help. But I’m sure that like me, your daughter is very very pleased that her mother is around.
Best wishes
Alison