I got the bad news on thursday at which I found myself joking about because I didn’t really want to hear the news. Also I wanted to appear brave, if a laugh and joke it wont be real. Now I have been able to let it sink in I feel all at sea. I am scared and frightened. I am a widow and live alone. My children are all boys and whilst I have told them I don’t feel as if I can talk to them so I feel really lonely. I dont yet have a date for my surgery but am going for a pre operation visit for my blood urine and stuff to be done.
Hi Heather, welcome to the BCC forums
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Lucy BCC
Sorry to hear your news. I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago and what you are feeling is quite normal. As time goes on it will make more sense and be easier to cope with. As advised on here by the lovely ladies take each day as it comes, don’t look too far ahead. Totally true and worked for me. Once you know plan that helps also. We all agree the waiting is the worst. I am going for pre admissions today, nuclear meds tomorrow and surgery Wednesday. Is there any other support you can get from friends and family. We are all here for you too. Take care. Hugs xxx
So sorry to hear your news, I was also diagnosed a couple of weeks ago. Like you I am also on my own, although I live with my young daughter and I have found it helps to confide in family and a few close friends. The hardest times I have found are when I am on myown, because my life just seems to be in limbo at the moment and I do not know how to fill my time, especially as I am still waiting to hear when my MRI appointment is. I want to keep busy but I do not have the energy or drive anymore. I have found great comfort and understanding from this forum, which I know you will to. You are not alone, we are all here to help each other through this!
Hi heather, sending you lots of big hugs. I was diagnosed just last week and though still shocked and devastated I’m starting to feel a little more in control of my life. Keeping busy really is the key, lunches with friends, knitting-badly, cleaning out cupboards, cleaning them again, bubbly baths…just a few things ive been up to. It won’t stop all those scary thoughts and worrys, you kind of need to have them sitting there, but will just give you a little something else to think of for 5 mins. And you’ve got us! We’re all just a little message away, many of us still waiting for surgery etc.
Lots of love xxx
Hi there,
I have been diagnosed with a rare and aggressive breast cancer called Carcinosarcoma. I am 29 with 2 children, my youngest being 9 weeks old! If any one has had this kind of cancer i would be most grateful for any information.
Thanks x
Sorry to hear that mexjun, we are all here for you. I’ve never heard of that myself, it might be an idea to post a new topic with the type of cancer you have as the subject title then anyone scrolling thru will see it instantly. However I do know that you will be feeling incredibly scared most likely
Let us know how you get on xx