Oh my goodness I can’t believe this. I don’t know what I am going to do. I have just found another lump larger than the first under the collarbone on my mastectomy side.
Rads at 3 today and an appointment with onc tomorrow so hopefully he can tell me.
What shall I do about my daughter? She is going abroad tomorrow for two weeks holiday. She has been with me through all this. I don’t know how I can tell her before she goes yet don’t know what she will think if I don’t.
Feel wretched.
Margaret
Oh Margaret I am so sorry, hopefully it will be something harmless, but I can only imagine what must be going through your mind at the moment.
I really don’t know what to advise about your daughter - its its a difficult one isn’t it? I think I would try to say nothing rather than worry her but then as you point out what will she think if she has to find out later.
At least you have an apointment with the onc tomorrow so hopefully he can advise and set up scans if they are needed.
Keep in touch and let us know how you get on.
lots of love
magsi x
Hi Margaret
I am too so sorry to hear about this. Please, try not to panic until you know more. Radiotherapy often causes lots of inflammation and it could be simply a response to that in one of the glands. Quite of few of us hand lumps through radiotherapy. As for your daughter, you know her best. It your were my mother, I would want to be with you, so there would be no way I could enjoy a holiday knowing you may have more problems. However, at the moment, you dont know there is anything wrong, so you could let her go and get a rest on holiday not knowing and she will be more refreshed for you when she gets back to support you. You will know more tomorrow to help you make your decision.
I will be thinking of you
Cathy
xx
Hi Margaret
Oh my goodness - what a nightmare for you - you must be really worried. It’s very difficult to know whether to say anything.
If you tell her then she will either not enjoy her holiday or cancel it. Possibly (hopefully!!!) for nothing.
If you don’t tell her then I think she would understand - it would be different if she was going away somehere to live. But you have to keep it up throughout the whole holiday - which you may find difficult.
Think about who you could take with you instead - it sounds as though you need someone there … can you think of anyone ?
Lots of love
FizBix xxx
I bet you feel wretched! But try not to panic. I found another lump just after rads on the mastectomy side. Horrible waiting for the appointment and so on but it turned out to be benign. Try and keep calm although of course your mind will be spinning. You really have my sympathy and I hope so much it turns out to be nothing.
best
Jo
good luck with whatever decision you make. i hope you receive good results. after i had 30 rads my glands in my neck swelt up but went down after a while and i was told at the hospital this is quite normal.
wishing u the best of luck and love
maria
Good luck with the new lump - I had the odd lump and buimp whilst going through rads too so it’s probably nothing to worry about.
Hi maraget
I have been thinking about you a lot lately - eversince you told me about how you were naughty in your name.
I can’t believe that you may have been cheated again - that would be so so unfair.
Please let us know how you got on with the onc.
Lots of love and thinking of you and {{{{{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}
love FB xxxx
Thank you for your replies they helped so much during the past few days.
I cannot fault Northampton Hospital. When I turned up for the 3.30 rads appt I told them and by 4.00 I was seen by a doctor and he rang for test arrangements to be made. Both the doctor and, the next day, my onc were reassuring. But my onc found another swelling under my arm.
I told my daughter about the first lump [didn’t know then about the second] but emphasised strongly the reassurance from the doctor and the fact that it may well be a cyst or linked to radiotherapy, and of course that an appointment may not come until she is back. I think that if she found out after the holiday she would have felt guilty and I would not want her to live with that.
So back to the waiting game that we all know so well.
Margaret
Hi Margaret
You seem to have handled it all very well.
Sorry you are playing the waiting game - I understand completely as I had to wait about 6 weeks before we knew what mine was. It’s naff and nasty waiting but we have no choice.
Obviously are thoughts are with you and we are all hoping for the best outcome.
Good luck
Love FB xxx
Hi Maraget
without wanting to put you under any pressure i just wondered how it was going and wanted to wish you all the best …
thinking of you …
love FB xxx
Thanks Fizbix,
My appointment is 14th August the waiting is awful isn’t it?
I hadn’t realised the difference between a recurrence in the same breast and a secondary diagnosis. A lovely lady, who I don’t know, pm me today and explained it. I have felt a lot easier since.
Love Margaret
Hello Margaret and thank you for your message on the other thread.
I’m pleased that you’re feeling a bit better about this now as there’s a good chance that it’s not a secondary.
Glad to see that you’ve got an appointment at last. The waiting is definitely the worst time .
Good luck for 14th.
Take care
Anthi x
Good luck for the 14th Margaret - the waiting is hellish isn’t it. Fingers crossed that all is well and it’s just a side effect of the rads.
I’m really sorry that you are having to go through all the waiting and the worry that often goes along with it Margaret.
Hopefully you will have you mind set at rest next week and it will just be the effects of the rads and nothing else.
All the best,
Magsi x