i was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with grade 3 cancer well that was from the biopsy i have a breast full of pre cancerous cells (does that make sense), was offered a operation! all a bit much for me at the time, a lumpectomay or mastectomy wow initially it was take it off i dont need it any more then the more i thought about it the more i changed my mind, spoke to various friends who gave me their ‘‘if it was me’’ advice (not knocking it )in the end i have decided to have a holiday that was planned so putting off my surgery by a week only and a lumpectomy when i get back, its like being on a roller coaster at the moment i am always shouting and crying and frustrated at this thing. i have read quite a few forums on here and left comments. i have so much to ask but dont know where to start, my hubby was really supportive to begin with but now his temper is short too i feel sorry for my kids 14 and 9.the worse is yet to come my surgery is planned for 12 aug 2 days after our return from holiday some thing to look forward to i guess!!! any advice or comments would be most welcome thanks
dawn
Sorry you have had to join us on the forums. It is so difficult at the start with so much information being thrust at you and so many things to have to get your head around. Your emotions will be all over the place so it’s no wonder you are crying and shouting and frustrated - it’s quite a normal reaction. I suppose your husband is probably just as frightened as you and bless them they are not really equipped to deal with this sort of stuff.
I hope you manage to get some peace on your holiday - I know it sounds stupid but try to enjoy it and not be constantly thinking about the operation.
I had lumpectomy with node sampling in Jan and the operation was actually very straight fwd and I was back to work 2 weeks later.
Let us know how you are getting on.
Hi Dawn,
All the very best to you at this s**t time. You are not alone here - there are so many different diagnosis but the feelings and fears are the same. I hope you can enjoy a lovely holiday and come back ready to fight.
I had Masterctomy and lymph nodes removed - was devistated at first but found some inner strength I did not know I had and am now fighting like hell. Hope you can find some too.
Enough about me - Enjoy the holiday and keep in touch. Hang in there with your hubbie - I’m sure he must be s**ting himself too. Remember to talk.
Sending you a hug
Hayley x
hi lilac and hayley
thank you for your kind words and i really do intend to have agood holiday went for my pre assesment today good job i did or thy would be op on wrong boob lol i am sure my hbbie is scared too but i cant be strong for him and me an dmy boys its just not happening well 4 days till hol and 3 weeks till op so chins up case is packed and im raring to go …on the outside …today anyway
hugs back to you xx
Hey sorry you’re here joining us under these circumstances BUT we are a great group…
I had a mastectomy in may as i too had stage 3 bc & pre cancerous cells surrounding the tumor…I was glad the decision was taken from me and i didn’t have to choose but am thankful the whole thing is gone now (boob i mean)… You will be totally fine and i’m sure ur hubby is very frightened as he is so helpless…Your children will deal with this better than you so worry about yourself and try to remain positive…
I am now on chemo no.4 and am happy as always, i have 2 beautiful kiddies aged 3yrs & 1yr and a great hubby who grows stronger with me every day
Lots of Love to you at this difficult time
Lauren.x.
Hi Dawn
I’m sorry you have had to join us here, I can only echo what others have already said. This is a very stressful time for you an your family and your emotions will be all over the place, take each day as it comes.
I think its great that you are getting away for a break. I went away 3 days after I was dx, it did me the world of good.
I was advised to have a mastcetomy but chose to have a WLE with node sampling, I had my operation last week. It was wasn’t as bad as I thought. I’m still able to tidy up after my teenage daughter, lucky me!!
Have a fantastic holiday with your family, do your best not to think about whats ahead of you (easier said…I know!) You’ll soon be back picking up after the kids too!!
Let us know how you get on
Big hugs
Catherine x
hi thanks for your kind words and words of advice which i take onboard as youve all been in my position. gonna have a moan now and get it off my chest ha . had a really bad day yesterday could not stop crying but i dont think its just the bc, i have toothache, a 14 year old with major ATTITUDE who says ive ‘only got cancer’ and builders doing a loft conversion (2 weeks over finsh date) packing for holiday and my little problem!! any wonder im bloody stressed, so today i had a pedicure and my brows waxed to lift me up (ha ). the toothache is annoying as i paid £91 at the dentist to get it fixed but its more painful now! and i hd about 3 cigs i had more or less stopped but felt that need, shame on me. its now silly o clock in the morning and i cant sleep so here i am pouring it all out in the hope i will get to sleep. sorry for the moan thanks for listening
dawn x
Hi Dawn
Please fee free to call our helpline for a chat and a chance to offload, they can offer you a ‘listening ear’ and further support. The number to call is 0808 800 6000 weekdays 9am-5pm and Sat 9am-2pm.
Best wishes
Lucy
Dawn
If you’re flying, get your tooth fixed first as the air pressure will make it worse.
Have a great time, sounds like you deserve it!
Kinden