I have my lumpectomy on wed as I have grade 3 invasive ductal I’m really scared all sorts are going threw my head so tired due to not sleeping well just hope all goes well feeling sad 
xx
Hi Sue, It’s good you have a date for your operation to get rid of your cancer. Take support from your family and friends who are all there to help you through this difficult time. Sending you a big hug! x
Good luck x
Are you having chemo or radiotherapy afterwards? X I am waiting to hear what treatment I am getting. Dreading having chemo out of everything even surgery.
Leesa
Hello Sue,
I can fully understand you feeling really scare about your lumpectomy operation. I am going to be just like you on Friday 25 October when I have my lumpectomy.
I have the same diagnosis as you. Ductal Invasive Cancer Grade 3. Nothing sinister showing in my lymph nodes on the ultrasound but they are going to do a Sentinel Node Biopsy at same time to make sure.
My pre-operation assessment is on Wednesday and my anxiety will get higher again that day.
I wish you good luck with your surgery and hope everything goes well for you.
Feeling scared is a very unpleasant emotion and each person has their own way of dealing with it.
My way of dealing with feeling scared about cancer and my imminent operation/treatment is to repeat a POSITIVE MANTRA in my head until my anxiety subsides. I also find it is helpful to re-focus on something in my garden, house or from my ‘happy memories’ box in my mind to re-direct my thought patterns.
Last year, I had CBT counselling (not related to cancer) and this focused on ‘living in the now’ and not enabling negative thought patterns to overwhelm you.
I am frightened that, after the operation, I will not be able to look after myself while I heal. (I live alone and have no family or close friends). When I was first diagnosed on 3 October, this thought truly overwhelmed me to the point of having constant palpitations. These have subsided in the past few days.
I know we are both frightened but WE CAN do this and WE WILL cope!!!
Peace and Positivity,
M
PS. Good Luck on Wednesday, Sue…Big Hug.
It’s mostly because of my job. I am a writer and quite well known where I live. I’ve had to cancel a few things already as I don’t want to face people. I have even had journalists contacting me about going ‘public’ so the thoughts of everyones eyes on me frail with no hair and pity terrifies me. Sounds so vain but that’s just how I feel.
Good news…I’m glad you are well! I’m going to see consultant tomorrow to hear results of MRI and what surgery he is going to do. Very nervous I wish it was today I hate the waiting and not knowing.
Have decided today to keep busy going to *try* and do some work. Writing comedy with cancer is a big ask though…God knows what I will pen. But it beats staring at the wall and wondering who will cry at my funeral.
L x