Thank you. Bizarrely I’d thought I’ll take up knitting or crochet! What a coincidence. I appreciate the comments sounds like we’re very similar. I’ve just been called back over for more bloods as something got missed yesterday. So feeling a bit stressed again. I’m better with a plan. Sending love. x
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Good luck with your results @jojokitty. I get mine this Friday. xxx
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After 8 months I am finally at the end of my treatment apart from the Letrozole I am pleased to say, but when I was first diagnosed I bought a book by Dr Liz O’Riordan and Professor Trisha Greenhalgh both having gone through breast cancer. I found the honest information in the book answered a lot of my questions regarding what many of the results meant, the treatments I may or may not need, exercise, foods to eat etc. Liz O’Riordan also has a podcast and you can find her on YouTube where again she talks about everything to do with Breast Cancer. Some people may feel that they can’t face listening/reading about their cancer but for me finding out as much as I could gave me back a feeling of control. I know I is going to be hard but try and keep looking forward, make plans even if it is only for a week’s time. I promise you there is a light at the end of the tunnel, keep moving forward and the speck will one day turn into sunshine again x
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It’s a good book.
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Wishing you all the best for your surgery and recovery xx
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Hi userm44, I do hope you’re feeling a little less shaky today. It’s tough I know but please know that everyone on here is here to listen & hopefully help ease your anxiety & worry.
It’s so easy to allow our minds to spiral into the worst case scenario but by what you have said about your Oncologist sounding very positive I really would keep reminding yourself if you can, that this is all going to be okay & with your husband & loving family by your side.
I’m a year into my treatment & I honestly don’t know where that 12 months went. It’s been an absolute whirlwind quite frankly.
I unfortunately was diagnosed with secondaries in my spine, collar bone, thigh bone & both pelvis.
I think I’m gradually, very slowly coming to terms with it but I can’t allow myself to look to far ahead because it’s too frightening for me if I’m being honest. I’m trying to live for right now, one day at a time.
I’m currently speaking with a secondary cancer psychologist & I’m so glad I agreed to the help. I was apprehensive at first (telling myself I would get through the anxiety & depression) but it’s the best thing I could have done for me. I think we try to protect our loved ones & tell them we’re fine all the time when we are really not.
I must say it sounds like yours has been caught early thank goodness & they have the treatment for that. Cancer treatment has really moved on these last few years giving us all such hope.
Wishing everyone nothing but all the very best 
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Hi Jaygo, wishing you all the best with your results this Friday
Sending love
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Hi, I hope all goes well for you with your op.
For parts of your post it felt like I was writing it myself. I was also diagnosed at 59 in Nov/Dec at the fittest I had been in decades. My Dr said this would help with my recovery, which has been good so far. I’ve joined a few free, general Wellbeing walks for additional exercise. I am nervous about going back to the gym at this point, not that I could yet. I’m also going to the local Maggie’s Centre which has been very supportive.
I read somewhere that writing about your experience can help some people. I have ended up writing a poem and adding to it as time passes. It is the level of a 5 year old, but it feels good to express some of the feelings I don’t really want to say to others.
I had a therapeutic mammoplasty in February and like someone else has said, I now have ‘pert’ breasts that look half my age. Also, I was surprised that, for me, it has not been too painful.
The waiting is so difficult. The hardest, for me, was waiting for the results post op to find out what my next treatment was to be. It felt like ages because it was the unknown and I was not in control. I feel it was worth waiting a bit longer to ensure I have the best treatment for me. Not that this made it any easier.
Just remember to listen to your body and rest when you need it, accept help from others and buy a few extra vases. 
My house was like a florist shop due to my op/60th birthday being so close together.
I hope it all works out well for you.
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Awww thank you @loki xxx
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Good luck for Friday 
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Got my appointment 6th May xx
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Hi Im same just had therapeutic mammaplasty after finding lump. Just waiting for oncotype test results to see if need chemo and will need radiotherapy. Your husband is right everyone tells me same one day at a time. There’s lots of waiting for results and then things might change a little. All we can do is take each stage at a time and I just tell people ‘look I am not feeling OK and I am not a stoic type deal with it.’ Im anxious all the time and I dont hide it I can’t! You have a right to the way you feel. Can you do.anything to distract yourself something you love. Look after yourself eat well and keep hydrated. And after the operation they said to me have lots of protein and vit C to help healing xx
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Wanted to thank you for pointing me to Dr Liz O’Riordan. I’m 1.5 weeks post op now, results/treatment plan on 5th May. Still feeling very much in limbo. Definitely have been pushing all those feelings under the nearest rug. One appointment at a time is my current mantra. I have though just started to listen to her podcast and she’s so sensible and matter of fact I can cope with that. So thank you. x
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I am afraid it does seem a very long road. I had my op in August last year, luckily no Chemo but due to a very large seroma that would not reabsorb have only just had my radiotherapy. I found Liz Reardon’s book and YouTube videos good and knew I was getting honest information. There is light at the end of the tunnel - just one step at a time and you will reach it. Wishing you all the best x
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hello userm44
I can understand all the fear…….its completely normal to spin out BUT I have just gone through 11 weeks from referral to complete diagnosis and trust me…whatever the outcome this is the worst part. it might sound odd but once you get your treatment underway honestly you will start to feel better. I am sorry for your Mum and I understand that will be an emotive trigger for you. During my 11 week wait I had two biopsies, three scans, and now I know its secondaries in my bones. its incurable BUT the oncologist and nurse team are amazing, and I feel ‘better’ for knowing the facts and trusting their care and advice about my drug treatments from now on. My aunt died a hideous painful death with breast cancer in her bones but 30 years ago pain management and treatment were no where near as good as nowadays. It’s still hard for me and my family to hear a similar diagnosis because of our memories, so again, I understand about your Mum. You will be fine. Forget the consultant for the kindly human touch…their brilliant skills are when we are out cold in surgery. Be grateful for those skills but look to the nurses, and the brilliant telephone helpline nurses for your personal support and kindness as well as medical info…..they are your support system. Best wishes for your surgery, be comforted that so much of your meltdowns, fears and aches will settle and slide away as you realise all is easier to deal with than you currently feel. Be kind to yourself xx
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