At present I am just recovering from my last FEC yesterday!
But know I have that out of the way I am worrying about the next step!
Can anyone give me any advice…? please.
I have my chat with the surgeon on the 18th Dec and was advice by onc that partial masectomy may be the way to go as lump has only shrunk from 10cm to 5cm which I thought was great! I am big busted 36F but concerned how I will cope how I will feel how my OH & two young kids will feel! Yes I cant wait to get the B_ _ _ _ rd out but cant help these feelings!
Can anyone advie me what I am to expect any tips etc! I am not a patient person and having to wait till the 18th Dec for the pre op chat is just awlful…
Hi Mel
When I was told that I would need to have a mastectomy I was devastated even though I had originally been told back in June this was most likely. My oncologist got my hopes up of a lumpectomy as I had a very good response to chemo shrinking from 4cm to 7mm but my consultant told me that due to 8cm of calcification it had to be a mastectomy. The most important thing is to make sure all of the diseased area (and more) is removed. I know it’s hard emotionally but actually when the time actually comes it’s not as bad as you think.
Is your OH supportive generally? I’m sure he will want whatever it takes to get this b****d disease out of your body. Children are very adaptable to change one minute they can be crying and the next laughing and playing completely forgetting about what you’ve told them. My niece and nephew are 3 and 5 and they know that their aunty is delicate and they must be gentle with her and they are. They don’t ask too much but they are just curious - they came to see me in hospital with the drains in etc etc and they just accept that their aunty is not well at the moment and the doctor is making her better. My niece came and lay next to me on my bed yesterday and stroked my arm and kept kissing my hand - which was so therapeutic.
I had a breast reduction 1 1/2 years ago so to then go through a mastectomy after my breasts were what I thought were perfect was even harder for me emotionally and mentally.
I know the waiting if hard - that is one of the worst parts of this, the waiting and not knowing.
Hope my comments have helped a little.
Rebz xx
Thankfully my husband is really supportive and my children are 8 & 9 so the questions come a rolling in! which we do talk to them on a need tp know basis!
Yes the worst part is not knowing and the waiting!
My onc got my hopes up by saying a lumpectomy but worried that I will wake up to find that I have had a mascetomy! Ah well what will be will be and I am sure it is for the best.