Petrified of mastectomy

Thankyou for this. When was your surgery if you don’t mind me asking?

Thankyou for your message, and I hope that your partner is recovering well. I went to the breast clinic on 23rd Dec where I had a mammogram, ultrasound and biopsies taken, they said it looked suspicious. Due to Xmas I went back on 3rd of Jan where they confirmed the diagnosis. I am also worried that the gap between my first appointment and diagnosis is very long. Concerned that it is spreading… almost 2 months.
It’s so amazing that you’re making plans, I’m scared to do that ‘in case’, but you’re right, mustn’t think like that.
Thankyou again for getting in touch, it’s really helped.

I lost my little girl in 1993 and this was a life changing time for me especially being so young myself. The following years were not the easiest. One thing after another nearly took its toll on me. I gave up a few times but my one passion in life kept me going.
Life can and will give you a huge kick in the ass at times but for me its served make me stronger and post 93 nothing can ever be as bad as Sunday July 93 when I haled my daughter as she breathed her last breath.
I remember laying her down in her crib and cuddling the SCBU nurses as they were in pieces at this moment. Even the hospital chaplain was losing it but life goes on.
As long as we are free to go for a walk in the woods or sit under a tree and read a good book we are privalidged and should just enjoy every day we can on this planet.
Sending hugs x

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Surgery was early Jan. She was home the same day.
It was a huge shock but we both decided that it will not ruin things for ourselves.

I’m so terribly sorry to hear this; I cannot imagine such an experience. It begs the question “Why?”. Life can be so cruel.
I have been for a walk through the woods today with my little rescue dog. You are right: being able to do these little things is enough.
Warm thoughts.

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Hi

I had single skin sparing mastectomy with implant on 21st January and I think I’m doing really well. Stayed in for one night as had surgery in the late afternoon. As soon as I came round in recovery I looked at my boob and was pleasantly surprised as it didn’t look too bad. I see the surgeon on 6th February to get dressing off. The drain was a pain as got in the way of everything although it wasn’t painful. I had that removed after a week and that was absolutely fine and didn’t hurt. I went out for short walk after a couple of days and then increased walks to 4.65km each day with my small dog. I’m feeling far more positive than I thought I would do and have even ordered 2 new bikinis for my holiday 1st April. Just hoping my appointment on 6th all goes well and that they didn’t find anything on my lymph nodes biopsy. x

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Hi - I have mine on the 17th, just been told I can’t have reconstruction, after being told I could and exploring the options.

Devastated the goal post have changed, not to mentions scared also…

Oh no, why have they changed your options? That’s an added burden for you.
You are a day before mine… I imagine we’re both feeling much the same…x

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Because it was so angry before - im not sure really… it’s hard to know what to do.
I’m really sad.

And totally scared and dreading it.

My partner says “it’ll be ok” which is of course useless.

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I’m not having a reconstruction but the surgeon said I could consider it in future. Hopefully that is something for you as well. :kissing_heart:I am so scared about everything like you. Let’s keep in touch and try to be OK through this horrible time. Xx

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Hopefully so. Not sure if after ill just want shut of it and embrace the flat life… hard to know. I love my boobs as they are- it’s almost like you have to remember you have this disease sometimes!

im trying to distract myself but today has been bad! Have you got anything nice planned between now and then?

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I think I will stay flat, at the moment I cannot see beyond the operation. I don’t feel that I can plan ahead.
I try and walk my little dog every day and have decided to have a quiet couple of weeks leading up to the surgery.
I have been in quite a lot of pain for the past 3/4 days, hopefully just nerve pain caused by stress/anxiety. It’s hard to stay positive. X

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Oh Im sorry to hear that. Yes take it it easy

I have a little dog too- they are the best!

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Yes they are! You have to take them for a walk, even if you don’t want to. :blush:
You take it easy as well.
We can do this. X

I hope you’re doing OK, @sue9 and @foxtrot. Feeling scared and anxious is completely understandable during such a difficult time. I’m really glad you’re able to support each other, and that you have your lovely little dogs too.

If you have worries, clinical questions or just want to talk through how you’re feeling, please don’t hesitate to chat to our breast care nurses. You can get in touch with them here on the forum on the Ask our Nurses your questions board or on our helpline 0808 800 6000 which is open Monday to Friday 9am-4pm and 9am-1pm Saturday.

Thinking of you,
Lucy

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