X Ray from doctor shows no fractures but I osteo phenia which is really old age, bending of the spine etc.my daughter says it may well be he has a trapped nerve or slipped disc but I think at almost 90 they’ve more or less thought that’s it…he certainly wouldn’t go in for an operation.trying to communicate between doctors and care home is a nightmare…no one at the home could tell us a thing beyond he’s eating, sleeping etc.going to try to take him to his own surgery but you can’t book with that doctor in advance so have left a message for her to contact us.You go round and round and round…
Treeze can your neice and nephew help? When does your brother get back - he needs to support you by taking care of your dad too. x Jak
Treeze
It was a long time ago, but I used to work in a care home as a residential social worker. And you’d be amazed at the things that older people recover from, they can be a lot stronger than they seem.
I hope you can get to talk to the doctor, it’s getting near impossible to get appointments in any reasonable timescale, the poor old NHS is struggling. It’s no wonder so many people go to A& E…
Hope you’re feeling better today, and not struggling with bags and buses.
Hugs
xxx
I might be able to work the odd day from home if it gets too much. I’ve only been working there for a month and have another 2 months before the probationary period ends. I should have started in October but it was delayed 3 times, twice by me/ the NHS and once by them. They’ve been very good about me having time off for appointments and I don’t want to push my luck. As others have said, nobody can really understand unless they’ve been through it themselves - I certainly wasn’t prepared for all this
Went to rehearsals tonight and felt more like myself than I have for ages…almost forgot about cancer for a short while.Felt energized for once even if I was tired by the end of the evening.just lovely to think about something else if only for a short while.goodnight lovely ladies.x
Arly we’ll be ringing those bells!
Treeze, glad your rehearsal went well, that must feel like real progress, to just feel normal again. And nice to have a chance to relax and think about other things when youve been worrying about your Dad.
Arly, almost there! We went out to lunch to celebrate on the last day, and it felt great! Just the way to kick-start your post treatment life…
Arly
Can we ring the bells for you yet, dont know what time your appointment is at but reading your post it would appear it is in the morning, enjoy your lunch and afternoon with the family, be careful you dont overdo it though you still have the two week post rads to get through.
Anyway:
ding a ling a ling
Helena xxx
Afternoon Ladies,
I’m beginning to feel like the old crock of the group! (I think maybe I am the oldest? A very immature 61!). School have been so brilliant at not putting me under pressure. You are all having to fit so much extra in than I have to and I’m still exhausted! Didn’t wake up until 10ish today. H’s just come home early to go to Sainsburys I really wanted to go with him but the body’s just not willing. I’m not complaining, I know we’re all different, just frustrated. I also know that my longterm depression and meds affect my response to trauma and other drugs. I will get that walk in though! Also I’ve just had to tell yet another person that my treatment is not finished - another 5 years of possible side effects!!!
Anyway I think you are all brilliant and am so glad we are here for each other!
Hugs all round,
Jak xxx
Jak, I don’t have to work and have a cleaner, so I can’t claim that I have to do much. Though I still find plenty to do: the garden, the allotment, walking the dog, the decorating, the ironing, the rest of the housework. And I do a lot of the household admin, paying bills and sorting stuff out. But it’s bliss not having to worry about a job, particularly now. So many women seem to be driven back to work before they’re physically or emotionally ready, because they feel guilty and outsiders have no concept of the recovery times needed after a diagnosis and treatment.
So I feel very lucky in not having the guilt and the stress and the effort. If only this damn rain would stop so I could actually get on and do some of those things I was talking about…!
jak
thats what i keep saying and Colin keeps directing me to the cupboard with it all in 
xx
Yay Arly! Moving on up! Virtual bell ringing and party clothes on! xx Jak
Going out for our cocktails tonight and fingers crossed my dad is going back home on Sunday 
Arly, you made it , well done! From now on you pretty much get to keep your clothes on, except for the odd check up.
Treeze, enjoy those cocktails!
Hi everyone!
Dizzy - just read your message .i’ve had a huge dilemma about work. I’m 51 and work in HR - def have been feeling the tiredness over the last few days (mixture between onset of menopause, Tamoxifen and rads) but have worked through rads. After speaking to a few people - and my boss - I’m taking next week off to give myself a chance to recover. I have a stressful job at times - and also usually have a very packed social life (they call me a social butterfly ?). I’ve now come to terms with being away from a job I love for a wee while - and have an agreement with my body that I’ll allow it to rest. So fingers crossed this will help me in the long run.
Hope everyone’s feeling ok - and that you all have a lovely weekend (despite the rain!!)
Arly xx
There is such a huge variation in the way people feel after rads, the way their skin reacts, the amount of pain, soreness, tiredness. All I think anyone can do is listen to what their body is saying, take time off sick if they need without feeling guilty, but if you feel fine, go for it. And if the body protests, take some more time out knowing you did your best.
I think we all need to banish the guilt, not compare ourselves to anyone else, or to worry about other people’s perceptions and expectations. This is cancer treatment, we’re allowed to take the time we need, whether it’s short or long.
I’m glad to be at this stage, I think my body has mostly recovered, and the emotions are getting there quickly. I’m enjoying being able to make plans again, and other than the last operation I’m done with treatment, and that is a lovely feeling.
We’ve had some lovely sunny weather today, we went for a brisk walk in the woods with the dog. And this afternoon I started clearing out drawers, you made me feel guilty Helena! So I’ve started on a mission to clear the clutter.
The big job will be going through my clothes drawers, I’m good at buying new things but not so good at getting rid of the old ones.
Hope you ladies are all doing OK x
And so happy for those of you who have finished your rads x
I noticed today that the breast that is being zapped seems denser and less floppy than the other, almost like when I was younger! Suppose it’s internal swelling?
TAZ i think it shrinks a little with the zapping. I am 4 weeks post rads now and my breast is still different but feeling softer again. Good luck with yours x
Morning Ladies,
Dizzy you always say exactly the right things you should write a recovering book!!
No sun today but got in a lovely ‘down to the river and back’ walk in the sun yesterday with H for a change (we take D2’s dog and she waits for me to catch up - so sweet).
Rash is still going strong but a lot less itching with the new lotion. Boob is beginning to feel softer. Fatigue is still an issue.
Good luck for continuing warmers tomorrow. Who finishes this week?
X Jak