Thank you for your kind words. I’m sure I will feel much better once I have made a decision. I have written a list of pros and cons and not having reconstruction looks the best option in black and white. What I’m struggling with is having the confidence to make a decision at a time when I feel an emotional wreck! Thank you for acknowledging that this is normal. I’m hoping that talking things through with a counsellor will help x
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Hi! Thank you for all your helpful comments and support. I have made the decision not to have reconstruction (at least not for now). I’m going to see my breast surgeon today to discuss. I’m feeling soooo much better now I have decided and finally have some head space to think about something else and enjoy Christmas 
. Merry Christmas everyone x
Has anybody’s surgeon refused expanders?
Mine seems very nice but also says HE will make the decision and that most oncologists don’t like expanders cos they have metal in them. I haven’t made up my mind what I want so had my heart set on an expander so I can make a decision post radiotherapy when hopefully my brain works a bit better (my chemo brain is awful).
He seems to be pushing for me to just get an implant (be it silicone or diep). I don’t think I want the latter as recovery sounds grim (I thought I could handle chemo but I was immediately signed off work and haven’t been back yet).
I’m pretty good at advocating for myself and I don’t need to make a decision til January but I’m just wondering if I should speak to someone else.
Has anyone else had a surgeon try to discourage them about expanders?