Hi
I’ve been away for a few days and promised that I was going to limit my visits to this web, down to once a month. But this is wonderful! This is who we are, this is how we live and here are some of the things we want. It has taken me ages to read through the posts.
Belinda and Anne in particular, there is so much wisdom, honesty and power in all thet you have both posted. And Jane and everyone else, now I think about it again!
Also, whoever said the pinstripe ribbon- I like it. We are not pink and fluffy, we mean business! Actually, I would be happy with pink-striped ribbon, a thin pink to represent BC but the rest to represent stage IV BC.
(One comment I have to make re the M+S breakthrough lingerie, don’t be too angry with the plunging neckline as some of us still have our flippin boobs but wish they had been taken off in time. My scars are all on my abdomen).
I agree with Jane that we need to know what we want. Yes, getting a named person to call helps but let’s face it, bless them, they can’t really answer many of our questions- how can they honestly?
I will email Breakthrough too, I cringed when I saw the bravery thing, and didn’t want to mention it, as it detracts from what Breakthrough are really about. I suspect, that is the idea of the Prima side of things- they probably want something out of their sponsorship or support, probably sells a few mags. We should all write to Prima probably.
One of the things that I am most horrified at is that Cancer Research UK are not including advanced cancer and palliative care within their core areas of research. That means that they are doing very little to help people like us. Thankfully, they still run some trails for treating advanced cancer but they are missing out a lot of things. It isn’t just BC- this is true for all cancers. Yet, many people who die from advanced cancer, having needed palliative care, or their relatives will leave substantial amounts of money to them.
It is easier for them to make themselves look good by focussing on areas such as prevention, genetics and screening. But that’s daft, there will always be cancer, no matter how much we screen, prevent and study genetics. That is the nature of the disease. Now, if they could say that more of their research projects resulted in findings that translate into therapies that halt cancer progression for good… Yes, maybe I’m asking for the moon but why not?
As I fast-walked the Race for Life last year (with my name and the names of six other friends and my late father on my back), I was sent the pack again this year and I was horrified that they had asked a lady who had been treated for BC to write the letter. The letter was written as if she would now be ok- don’t CRUK know what BC is like. Plus it made me feel quite bitter to have a primary BC ‘survivor’ being used to say how wonderful Cancer Research is- don’t they get the fact that BC can come back many, many years later?
Finally, I am also mightily unimpressed with the recently published NICE guidelines for advanced BC. How ineffective can they be? As usual they took the easy route and just kept up-to-date with the ‘usual presentations, main types of BC etc’. Maybe it’s just me, but I’m not sure what anyone gains from them…boring!
Like others have voiced on here, I don’t think any particular person on here should feel a responsibility to be an advocate- we all know the score and we know how precious our lives are. Personally, I value mine too much to fight for everyone else- I’m sorry. Maybe the best we can ask is that BCC act on behalf of us as ‘a team’ and forward details of this thread to all who could do with reading it!! What does everyone think? Why do we have to use our precious time to go knocking and campaigning? Isn’t that what charities like BCC are meant to help us with?
Thanks Poannie for starting this thread, this is what I joined BCC for.
Anne x
(PS Thanks to BCC for what you have done already and to members of the taskforce etc. I for one, hope you can also help us find ways of venting our frustrations productively so that we feel that our expressions can be turned into something meaningful.)
PS another edit, I made a comment about not buying Prima but I am sorry I made this because at the end of the day, they are supporting breast cancer research and I’m grateful. I just wish they would try and understand that it doesn’t and with whoops and whistles.