Steph, you’re not bitter & twisted at all. I actually agree with you and was just trying to put forward a balancing view. Personally I’d have liked her to say “chemo is really rough, but you get through it because you have to” … before going on to say that she was now feeling “really really well”. I will not have to go through chemo, just radiotherapy to follow my WLE & SNB. But … I know how very fortunate I am and I stress that fact to everyone who asks after me.
My personal bugbear is the requirement to “be positive”. When I’ve mentioned having concerns about SEs, recurrence etc, its un-bloody-believable to be told that thinking that way is likely to be a self-fulfilling prophecy! But I’ve had that happen twice already and I was only diagnosed in March this year. The other aspect of this is that being positive is more about protecting other people from the rubbish and harsh facts than it is to do with us. Of course we’re all doing our damndest to face this head on and with a PMA, but blind optimism and ignorance aren’t the way forward for everyone facing tough times in ordinary life, so why should it be de rigeur when you have BC?
Its probably best I don’t get up onto my pink 'n fluffy hobbyhorse …
Debs x